Do want to save your relationship? I spent a year away in the military.
While away my spouse had learned to cope without me.
I no longer seemed to have a place in their life or heart.
But we saved the marriage and so can you.
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Is the relationship is worth saving? While almost every relationship can be saved with hard work, both parties must decide that they want to make it work.
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You must pinpoint the problem or problems in the relationship.
One of the biggest problems in saving a relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself.
For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups.
In truth, the affair is a symptom of a deeper problem.
For instance, a lack of true intimacy can lead to a straying spouse.
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When you start to deal with core issues rather than symptoms, you can save the relationship.
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Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts.
This means both talking about your own feelings/concerns and listening to your partner's.
Hold your partner's hand and look at them when you are talking about your problems.
It signals that you want to reconnect even though you're upset.
When your partner talks about things that hurt you remember that they're not doing it to hurt you.
It's to improve the relationship.
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Once you have gotten down to the bottom of the problems in your relationship, create an action plan to solve them.
Then follow through on your action plan.
If you're not meeting their expectation, you need to find out what they are.
You also need to express your expectations.
More help with housework, date nights, a more varied menu from the kitchen or in the bed room.
Take turns coming up with creative solutions.
And then follow through.
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Finally, you should realize that a relationship is an ongoing process.
Relationships are made of compromises, arguments, sadness, understanding, laughter, joy and love.
But that's why it's worth saving your relationship.
Right?