How to Tell Your Kids Their Father Died
The man you love and the man your children love and look up to is gone.
The pain is terrible, but the pain lets you know that the feelings you have are real and that they are important.
You can bet that your children are going to have those same feelings.
They are also going to have quite a bit of fear, and you need to be the one to banish that fear.
Let me tell you my story.
It happened in March of 2009.
I woke up just like any other Saturday.
My husband was already out the door and on his way to work, as he was doing some overtime that week.
The good news is I was going to be getting the kids ready for all of us to go out fishing at the lake when he came home, which was supposed to be by noon.
Noon came and went, so I called his cell and just got the voicemail.
I was starting to get worried when I got the phone call that no one wants to receive.
I was stunned.
Anyone would be.
Even though I'd always thought of myself as a strong person, looking at my kids looking up and me with questioning looks on their faces was too much.
How do you do it? How to you tell your kids their father died? I said it before; it's not easy.
Even with all the books in the world and all the advice in the world, little is actually going to prepare you to sit down with the kids and tell them that their father is dead.
I stumbled through the words.
I'm sure most people do.
We sat in silence for a bit, and them my mom and dad came by after I called them, my husband's mother came shortly after.
I didn't know the first thing to do in the situation, and I felt like I was a child for a while.
I knew that I had to step up though, for the sake of my kids.
I made sure that I made them feel as safe as possible, and that I answered all of the questions they had, without going into the details they did not need to know.
It was hard, but it was possible to do.
Going On You and the kids can go on with your life.
The good news is that happiness is going to find its way back into the lives of your children.
They are strong, and they are going to be able to smile and be happy again.
It takes time, but it will happen.
The pain is terrible, but the pain lets you know that the feelings you have are real and that they are important.
You can bet that your children are going to have those same feelings.
They are also going to have quite a bit of fear, and you need to be the one to banish that fear.
Let me tell you my story.
It happened in March of 2009.
I woke up just like any other Saturday.
My husband was already out the door and on his way to work, as he was doing some overtime that week.
The good news is I was going to be getting the kids ready for all of us to go out fishing at the lake when he came home, which was supposed to be by noon.
Noon came and went, so I called his cell and just got the voicemail.
I was starting to get worried when I got the phone call that no one wants to receive.
I was stunned.
Anyone would be.
Even though I'd always thought of myself as a strong person, looking at my kids looking up and me with questioning looks on their faces was too much.
How do you do it? How to you tell your kids their father died? I said it before; it's not easy.
Even with all the books in the world and all the advice in the world, little is actually going to prepare you to sit down with the kids and tell them that their father is dead.
I stumbled through the words.
I'm sure most people do.
We sat in silence for a bit, and them my mom and dad came by after I called them, my husband's mother came shortly after.
I didn't know the first thing to do in the situation, and I felt like I was a child for a while.
I knew that I had to step up though, for the sake of my kids.
I made sure that I made them feel as safe as possible, and that I answered all of the questions they had, without going into the details they did not need to know.
It was hard, but it was possible to do.
Going On You and the kids can go on with your life.
The good news is that happiness is going to find its way back into the lives of your children.
They are strong, and they are going to be able to smile and be happy again.
It takes time, but it will happen.
