Needing My Parents
For most sons and daughters, there is this feeling of "needing my parents" that they never completely overcome.
Of course this feeling is very subconscious but it is informing their behaviour nonetheless.
What do I mean by the term "needing my parents"? It comes out a lot in the financial area of people's lives.
For example, "I need my parent's help to afford a nice house to live in".
Or "I need my parents to financially support me if I come across tough financial times.
" Or "I need my parents to financially support me through college or university" It comes out in career as well.
For example, "I require my father's support or contacts to be able to get my ideal job.
" Or "I should do the same job as my father or mother did.
" At the end of the day, you don't require your parents for anything.
All that is required is for you to "be there for yourself".
You can work things out on your own.
I'm not saying to cultivate the headspace of "one man is an island" who doesn't need anybody.
It is about getting over this belief that you "need your parents" in life.
And without them you would be nothing.
At a conscious level, all of this makes sense.
But these beliefs aren't 100% conscious beliefs, often they are more subtle and sub-conscious than that.
Be honest with yourself and honestly ask yourself the question of whether you believe that you need your parents in life to do the things that you want to do? Personal Story For a long-time I subscribed "sub-consciously" to the belief that I "needed" my parents to be able to do the things I wanted to do in life.
This belief came out in every aspect of my life.
Romantically, to be introduced to available, single women.
Not thinking that I could meet them myself.
Expecting friends and family to do the introductions for me.
Financially, I felt I needed their support to make major purchases such as houses and cars.
I believed that I couldn't save the money, obtain loans to make it happen on my own.
The ultimate realisation came when I discovered that I could achieve all of my financial, romantic and career goals on my own, without the support of others.
Sure I utilised my networks as was required but I didn't hold the belief that I needed them to achieve my goals in life.
That was difference.
Of course this feeling is very subconscious but it is informing their behaviour nonetheless.
What do I mean by the term "needing my parents"? It comes out a lot in the financial area of people's lives.
For example, "I need my parent's help to afford a nice house to live in".
Or "I need my parents to financially support me if I come across tough financial times.
" Or "I need my parents to financially support me through college or university" It comes out in career as well.
For example, "I require my father's support or contacts to be able to get my ideal job.
" Or "I should do the same job as my father or mother did.
" At the end of the day, you don't require your parents for anything.
All that is required is for you to "be there for yourself".
You can work things out on your own.
I'm not saying to cultivate the headspace of "one man is an island" who doesn't need anybody.
It is about getting over this belief that you "need your parents" in life.
And without them you would be nothing.
At a conscious level, all of this makes sense.
But these beliefs aren't 100% conscious beliefs, often they are more subtle and sub-conscious than that.
Be honest with yourself and honestly ask yourself the question of whether you believe that you need your parents in life to do the things that you want to do? Personal Story For a long-time I subscribed "sub-consciously" to the belief that I "needed" my parents to be able to do the things I wanted to do in life.
This belief came out in every aspect of my life.
Romantically, to be introduced to available, single women.
Not thinking that I could meet them myself.
Expecting friends and family to do the introductions for me.
Financially, I felt I needed their support to make major purchases such as houses and cars.
I believed that I couldn't save the money, obtain loans to make it happen on my own.
The ultimate realisation came when I discovered that I could achieve all of my financial, romantic and career goals on my own, without the support of others.
Sure I utilised my networks as was required but I didn't hold the belief that I needed them to achieve my goals in life.
That was difference.
