Communication Is the Key to a Healthy Marriage
Those of us who were fortunate enough to live during the 1950's know how much life has changed.
Back then, dad was the breadwinner, mom stayed home and cared for the house and children, and kids could play outdoors all day without anyone having to worry about someone taking them.
Prices were low, and the American Dream was alive for the majority of Americans.
In the decades since then since then, life has become much more stressful and filled with financial worries and harried schedules, Along with these changes, a high rate of divorce has seemed to become inevitable.
When people are under so much pressure, eventually something has to give, and too often it's the marriage that suffers.
Most couples are unprepared to deal with the curve balls which life throws at them.
They fall in love and decide to marry while dreaming of a blissful, stress-free life together.
A short while after they marry, the realities of life start to hit.
Maybe you are working two different shifts and seldom see each other.
Maybe a premature pregnancy and birth is interfering with your time together and your financial situation.
Or maybe you're just discovering things about each other that you didn't take the time to learn before you rushed into marriage.
All of these issues can be the beginning of the end of a marriage and hurry the couple into divorce court.
When you're worn out and stressed, sometimes you might let yourself think that a divorce is the easiest way out.
Giving up is in our nature as human beings.
Even as children we start seeing things get tough, and our first impulse is to run away from the problem.
In marriage, this often isn't the best way.
In some cases, such as those of domestic abuse, the best recourse is to get out of the negative situation as quickly as possible.
In other instances, however, stopping to think about saving your marriage and why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place will often give you reason enough to try again.
How much do you and your spouse talk? That means really talk about the things that make you happy, those that trouble you, the things you are dealing with, and your feelings as well as listen to what your spouse has to say? Many couples neglect to make time to talk together, and this is essential for any healthy marriage.
You can't be happy with someone if you are living in parallel worlds that seldom meet.
You need to develop common ground, and that can only be done through deep communication.
A true adage says that you can never fix something if you don't understand what is broken.
Back then, dad was the breadwinner, mom stayed home and cared for the house and children, and kids could play outdoors all day without anyone having to worry about someone taking them.
Prices were low, and the American Dream was alive for the majority of Americans.
In the decades since then since then, life has become much more stressful and filled with financial worries and harried schedules, Along with these changes, a high rate of divorce has seemed to become inevitable.
When people are under so much pressure, eventually something has to give, and too often it's the marriage that suffers.
Most couples are unprepared to deal with the curve balls which life throws at them.
They fall in love and decide to marry while dreaming of a blissful, stress-free life together.
A short while after they marry, the realities of life start to hit.
Maybe you are working two different shifts and seldom see each other.
Maybe a premature pregnancy and birth is interfering with your time together and your financial situation.
Or maybe you're just discovering things about each other that you didn't take the time to learn before you rushed into marriage.
All of these issues can be the beginning of the end of a marriage and hurry the couple into divorce court.
When you're worn out and stressed, sometimes you might let yourself think that a divorce is the easiest way out.
Giving up is in our nature as human beings.
Even as children we start seeing things get tough, and our first impulse is to run away from the problem.
In marriage, this often isn't the best way.
In some cases, such as those of domestic abuse, the best recourse is to get out of the negative situation as quickly as possible.
In other instances, however, stopping to think about saving your marriage and why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place will often give you reason enough to try again.
How much do you and your spouse talk? That means really talk about the things that make you happy, those that trouble you, the things you are dealing with, and your feelings as well as listen to what your spouse has to say? Many couples neglect to make time to talk together, and this is essential for any healthy marriage.
You can't be happy with someone if you are living in parallel worlds that seldom meet.
You need to develop common ground, and that can only be done through deep communication.
A true adage says that you can never fix something if you don't understand what is broken.
