Healing Process and tips to get over him
1. Hes gone. yeah hes gone. u cant do much to get him bak. talking wont make him decide to get back. for sure he wont be coming bak so its time to move on. the first process ur going to face is, its all my fault. u blame urself for y he left. u dont kno y he left so it has to b u. ur the only reasonable reason y he culd leave. i mean if everything was perfect, it had to b u. during this time, u will b irrational out of ur mind. u r particualry not urself. ur wat teens consdiered "emo". ur blaming urself for everything n is sensitive more than usual. but the thing u can't stop doing is blaming urself for y he left.
Tip: its ok to b sad, depressed, and even devastated depedning on the level of the realtionship. i believe the time u were together with him, is double that amount of time to heal. if u went out with him for 3 months it will take 6 months. im not for sure on this, but its wat i believe. and this is for the people who were in love. if u guys simple just had a fling, it wont apply cuz u move on quick. dont do anything stupid wen ur sad/depressed/devastated. dont start hurting urself. thats the worst case scenerio. dont go that far. u kno u r a beautiful person inside cuz thats wat ur ex saw in u. u can be tat person again given time.
2. the next stage u go thru which will prolly take months to years to overcome is evaluating ur realionship. u have to really be from the outside view. u cant b biased. u have to imagine that its one of ur friend's realstionship n ur giving her/him advice about the situation. u cant b on anyone's sides. u have to think was he really worth it? was it worth all that crying? how long did u cry? how long did u guys go out? wat were the postives and wat were the negatives? was it really u>? u have to truly answer the questions to ur best ability of how ur role in the realtionship was. i was in that stage where i really realized that it culdnt b all my fault. it takes two to fall apart. (unless cheating occurs but thats a whole diff article i can write if u want) truly think carefully about wat drove u annoyed and wat made him annoyed.
3. in just shortly, u'll realize ur answer. u'll understand y he left. it will all make sense to u. u usally figure this out b4 ur fully ready to talk to him if u decide to. wen i realize that (prolly almost 8-12 months later) i talked to the ex to make sure i was correct n he said i was. most of the time i can say its not u its him. they change their minds. its not u its them falling out of love. so u can stop blaming urself.
4. ur back to normalish. u realize that u havent been urself n its time to get bak to ur normal self. u have to remember who ur friends r and hang out with them. u have to b in social gatherings n get social again. i mean b4 he arrived n smashed ur heart to the ground, u were a social flock. obvi thats how he came to u. u have to get bak to ur personality. u have to remember wat made u happy. u have to remember y ur strong and independednt. u ont need a bf, u jus want one. u can go on without one.
5. ok ur bak. u have ur normal self again. u realize how much u love life and that he wasnt worth crying for. ur happy again. u once yet found how it is to b single n u love it. u enjoy it. but sumtimes u do wish to have a significant other but thats wat everyone feels so dont feel too bad.
okk well this is the process that i went thru. believe its not easy and its tough from a breakup. but if u need help please feel free to post a comment n i'll try my best to help u out as best as i can. now if u have problems with a boyfriend n need help read my other article about dating tips :-)
-LM
Tip: its ok to b sad, depressed, and even devastated depedning on the level of the realtionship. i believe the time u were together with him, is double that amount of time to heal. if u went out with him for 3 months it will take 6 months. im not for sure on this, but its wat i believe. and this is for the people who were in love. if u guys simple just had a fling, it wont apply cuz u move on quick. dont do anything stupid wen ur sad/depressed/devastated. dont start hurting urself. thats the worst case scenerio. dont go that far. u kno u r a beautiful person inside cuz thats wat ur ex saw in u. u can be tat person again given time.
2. the next stage u go thru which will prolly take months to years to overcome is evaluating ur realionship. u have to really be from the outside view. u cant b biased. u have to imagine that its one of ur friend's realstionship n ur giving her/him advice about the situation. u cant b on anyone's sides. u have to think was he really worth it? was it worth all that crying? how long did u cry? how long did u guys go out? wat were the postives and wat were the negatives? was it really u>? u have to truly answer the questions to ur best ability of how ur role in the realtionship was. i was in that stage where i really realized that it culdnt b all my fault. it takes two to fall apart. (unless cheating occurs but thats a whole diff article i can write if u want) truly think carefully about wat drove u annoyed and wat made him annoyed.
3. in just shortly, u'll realize ur answer. u'll understand y he left. it will all make sense to u. u usally figure this out b4 ur fully ready to talk to him if u decide to. wen i realize that (prolly almost 8-12 months later) i talked to the ex to make sure i was correct n he said i was. most of the time i can say its not u its him. they change their minds. its not u its them falling out of love. so u can stop blaming urself.
4. ur back to normalish. u realize that u havent been urself n its time to get bak to ur normal self. u have to remember who ur friends r and hang out with them. u have to b in social gatherings n get social again. i mean b4 he arrived n smashed ur heart to the ground, u were a social flock. obvi thats how he came to u. u have to get bak to ur personality. u have to remember wat made u happy. u have to remember y ur strong and independednt. u ont need a bf, u jus want one. u can go on without one.
5. ok ur bak. u have ur normal self again. u realize how much u love life and that he wasnt worth crying for. ur happy again. u once yet found how it is to b single n u love it. u enjoy it. but sumtimes u do wish to have a significant other but thats wat everyone feels so dont feel too bad.
okk well this is the process that i went thru. believe its not easy and its tough from a breakup. but if u need help please feel free to post a comment n i'll try my best to help u out as best as i can. now if u have problems with a boyfriend n need help read my other article about dating tips :-)
-LM
