Sexless Marriage: How to Get My Wife Interested in Me Again
Don't Think It Should Just Be "Natural" Some couples avoid the topic of sex as a part of their communication thinking it should just be "natural.
" This is a big mistake.
While it can be daunting for some people to talk about their sex lives, a lack of communication between couples about this all important topic can definitely lead to a ruined marriage.
It's not just about satisfying libido or base sexual desires.
Sexuality is a critical part of true communication and intimacy.
Women or men who attempt to avoid or diminish the role of sex in their marriage are asking for deep trouble.
Both partners should look forward to sex and expect it to be a huge part of their lives together.
Although over time it can be challenging to have regular sex because of babies, children, busy schedules, or other distracting elements of daily life, you should never exclude sex as a healthy part of your daily life.
If you are experiencing boredom, low intimacy or low sex drive...
or even problems of performance, you must not allow this to block a regular and consistent expression of healthy sex life between you.
Some Wives Protest a Lack of Intimacy Some wives feel that they don't want to have sex if there's not enough intimacy.
Paradoxically, many men feel that they can't be intimate psychologically or spiritually unless the sexual expression is a regular part of the marriage.
Some people feel - driven by insane cultural standards - that they aren't "pretty enough," "skinny enough," "in good enough shape" or even "young enough" or "sexy enough" to be sexual.
This is nonsense.
A healthy sex life can and should be available to every couple no matter what their age, physical condition, looks, or any other factor, even including illness.
Sexual Intercourse is Not Just Lust Sexual intercourse is a powerful act of communication and intimacy.
It is not just "lust" or "animal drives.
" Brain studies have shown in research that a regular sex life enhances a sense of wellbeing, connection, creativity and warmth between people on a very fundamental level.
Therefore it's in your own best interests and the interests of your partner to have regular sexual intercourse.
It's just good health, both mental and physical.
But What If You Can't Perform? If there are performance issues, such as erectile dysfunction, then it is your job to figure out what the problems are.
Lifestyle, including stresses, diet, routines, physical fitness or alcohol or other drug intake, must be taken into account.
What is more important, a few drinks at night or a very healthy sex life? What are your priorities? Alcohol Often is a Culprit in Premature Ejaculation This will not be a big surprise to many men.
Regular alcohol consumption often leads to premature ejaculation or even difficulties in erection, as many alcoholics will confirm to you if you ask them.
A study of 17,000 male alcoholics who became teetotalers showed that at least 50 percent of the men regained their erectile functions and the other half regained at least part or all of their erectile function.
Don't drink too much or you can ruin your sex life.
High Blood Pressure Can Be Another "Downer" In another study about 2/3 of men with high blood pressure in middle to late middle age experienced erectile dysfunction, from moderate to severe levels.
There just isn't enough blood to the penis in men with high blood pressure.
There are many ways to control blood pressure, and several of those ways involve better diet and exercise.
Sometimes blood pressure needs to be controlled through medication, but some blood pressure meds are bad for erections.
Ask your doctor, don't be shy! Also, cigarette smoking and consumption of fatty foods are the leading causes of high cholesterol, which leads to high blood pressure.
Go Into Training for Great Sex Lots of men and women "say" that sex is important to them, but they don't take any measures to really make sure they are in shape for sex.
Moderate exercise (not extreme exercise) is powerfully beneficial in training for a healthy sex life.
Over-training can lead to sterility, low sperm production and low libido.
The "muscle men" who overtrain are often incapable of healthy sex life.
Keep your exercise regular, but moderate.
It's a good idea to be conscious and deliberate in preparing for a great sex life together.
" This is a big mistake.
While it can be daunting for some people to talk about their sex lives, a lack of communication between couples about this all important topic can definitely lead to a ruined marriage.
It's not just about satisfying libido or base sexual desires.
Sexuality is a critical part of true communication and intimacy.
Women or men who attempt to avoid or diminish the role of sex in their marriage are asking for deep trouble.
Both partners should look forward to sex and expect it to be a huge part of their lives together.
Although over time it can be challenging to have regular sex because of babies, children, busy schedules, or other distracting elements of daily life, you should never exclude sex as a healthy part of your daily life.
If you are experiencing boredom, low intimacy or low sex drive...
or even problems of performance, you must not allow this to block a regular and consistent expression of healthy sex life between you.
Some Wives Protest a Lack of Intimacy Some wives feel that they don't want to have sex if there's not enough intimacy.
Paradoxically, many men feel that they can't be intimate psychologically or spiritually unless the sexual expression is a regular part of the marriage.
Some people feel - driven by insane cultural standards - that they aren't "pretty enough," "skinny enough," "in good enough shape" or even "young enough" or "sexy enough" to be sexual.
This is nonsense.
A healthy sex life can and should be available to every couple no matter what their age, physical condition, looks, or any other factor, even including illness.
Sexual Intercourse is Not Just Lust Sexual intercourse is a powerful act of communication and intimacy.
It is not just "lust" or "animal drives.
" Brain studies have shown in research that a regular sex life enhances a sense of wellbeing, connection, creativity and warmth between people on a very fundamental level.
Therefore it's in your own best interests and the interests of your partner to have regular sexual intercourse.
It's just good health, both mental and physical.
But What If You Can't Perform? If there are performance issues, such as erectile dysfunction, then it is your job to figure out what the problems are.
Lifestyle, including stresses, diet, routines, physical fitness or alcohol or other drug intake, must be taken into account.
What is more important, a few drinks at night or a very healthy sex life? What are your priorities? Alcohol Often is a Culprit in Premature Ejaculation This will not be a big surprise to many men.
Regular alcohol consumption often leads to premature ejaculation or even difficulties in erection, as many alcoholics will confirm to you if you ask them.
A study of 17,000 male alcoholics who became teetotalers showed that at least 50 percent of the men regained their erectile functions and the other half regained at least part or all of their erectile function.
Don't drink too much or you can ruin your sex life.
High Blood Pressure Can Be Another "Downer" In another study about 2/3 of men with high blood pressure in middle to late middle age experienced erectile dysfunction, from moderate to severe levels.
There just isn't enough blood to the penis in men with high blood pressure.
There are many ways to control blood pressure, and several of those ways involve better diet and exercise.
Sometimes blood pressure needs to be controlled through medication, but some blood pressure meds are bad for erections.
Ask your doctor, don't be shy! Also, cigarette smoking and consumption of fatty foods are the leading causes of high cholesterol, which leads to high blood pressure.
Go Into Training for Great Sex Lots of men and women "say" that sex is important to them, but they don't take any measures to really make sure they are in shape for sex.
Moderate exercise (not extreme exercise) is powerfully beneficial in training for a healthy sex life.
Over-training can lead to sterility, low sperm production and low libido.
The "muscle men" who overtrain are often incapable of healthy sex life.
Keep your exercise regular, but moderate.
It's a good idea to be conscious and deliberate in preparing for a great sex life together.
