Your First Time
Usually conversations about first time sex are geared to teens and focus on one kind of sex only, intercourse. But lots of us have our first sexual experiences into our 20s, 30s, and beyond. And once you have intercourse it’s not as if other first time sexual experiences don’t matter.
Many women, for example, have had a lot of sex, but are still be waiting for their first orgasm (either ever, or first orgasm during partner sex).
For people whose first experiences with sex were forced, whether or not there was physical violence involved, the idea of “first sex” can be very different and may evoke more anxiety or fear than excitement. There aren’t any rules to this, we each come to every first time sexual experience with our own history as well as our own unique feelings and expectations.
If you’re at the point where you’ve decided you’re ready for a new sexual first in your life, and you’re not sure how to go from mental preparedness to getting it on, here are some tips to consider for different first time sex experiences.
First Time Orgasm
Preparing for your first orgasm isn’t like preparing for your first camping trip. There’s no easy to follow checklist that will direct you to everything you need to get to your destination safely and on time. But here are six things to consider if you’re on the road to your first orgasm.
First Time Intercourse
We place huge expectations on the role of intercourse in our sexual relationships and most of those expectations can actually get in the way of enjoying your first time having intercourse.
It’s unlikely that the first time will ever be the best, but here are some things that may make your first time better.
First Time Anal Sex
Most people think that anal sex always involves some pain until you’re “used to it”. But pain shouldn’t be a part of your first or fifty-first anal sex experience. If you’re thinking about anal sex, here’s what you need to know to have safe, fun, and pain free play, from the first time.