How a Bariatric Procedure Affects Your Love Life
Morbidly obese individuals often have very unsatisfactory, or non-existent, love lives.
That's obvious to common observation and studies confirm it.
It goes beyond difficulties with sex and encompasses romantic relationships in general.
It's far more than just an issue of whether someone grossly overweight can get a date, though that's a part of the problem.
It doesn't take a statistical study to confirm that the overweight are often not the first choice of companion, even sometimes for other obese individuals.
Couple that with the relatively low incidence of obesity (compared to the overall population) and you have a combination not geared toward romantic success.
Toss in mainstream attitudes toward being ultra-heavy and the obese truly have a hard time of it in the mating game.
Even those who have found a mate - often one with a similar difficulty with excess weight - find themselves restricted and less happy than they could be.
Physical movement is difficult.
Positions are often restricted.
That and a number of other consequences of morbid obesity make it difficult to keep romance varied and interesting.
Add in the physical discomfort and ill-health effects that usually accompany morbid obesity and the relationship is almost guaranteed to suffer.
As you grow slimmer over the succeeding months and years, you'll receive many compliments on your appearance.
Most of them will be sincere, some will be tinged with envy.
You'll be tempted to seek them out, to amplify their number and frequency.
Most obese individuals have been that way for a long time, sometimes a lifetime.
The urge to overcome the hurt and rejection of many years can feel overwhelming.
Avoid being like a book on a slanted board, continually shoved upward by others, only to slow down to a stop in the absence of additional pushes.
Learn to walk up the plank for yourself.
You'll feel the pride of accomplishment you deserve, a much more long-lasting and substantial ego-boost than others could ever provide.
There are physical consequences you should expect as well.
Women, for example, who lose substantial body fat quickly find their sexual desires rising to new and sometimes unnerving heights.
That's not just because of achieving a more attractive body.
Fat cells store estrogen and releasing that fat introduces it into the bloodstream, raising sexual desire.
As you become able to move more freely, you'll find yourself wanting to do so, particularly during sex.
That's great! But be aware that the loose skin that results from rapid, substantial weight loss can take a while to readjust to a slimmer body.
It's a part of the process and should not be an occasion for despair that holds you back.
If you need a little extra help, consult with your physician about the possibility of cosmetic surgery.
That's obvious to common observation and studies confirm it.
It goes beyond difficulties with sex and encompasses romantic relationships in general.
It's far more than just an issue of whether someone grossly overweight can get a date, though that's a part of the problem.
It doesn't take a statistical study to confirm that the overweight are often not the first choice of companion, even sometimes for other obese individuals.
Couple that with the relatively low incidence of obesity (compared to the overall population) and you have a combination not geared toward romantic success.
Toss in mainstream attitudes toward being ultra-heavy and the obese truly have a hard time of it in the mating game.
Even those who have found a mate - often one with a similar difficulty with excess weight - find themselves restricted and less happy than they could be.
Physical movement is difficult.
Positions are often restricted.
That and a number of other consequences of morbid obesity make it difficult to keep romance varied and interesting.
Add in the physical discomfort and ill-health effects that usually accompany morbid obesity and the relationship is almost guaranteed to suffer.
As you grow slimmer over the succeeding months and years, you'll receive many compliments on your appearance.
Most of them will be sincere, some will be tinged with envy.
You'll be tempted to seek them out, to amplify their number and frequency.
Most obese individuals have been that way for a long time, sometimes a lifetime.
The urge to overcome the hurt and rejection of many years can feel overwhelming.
Avoid being like a book on a slanted board, continually shoved upward by others, only to slow down to a stop in the absence of additional pushes.
Learn to walk up the plank for yourself.
You'll feel the pride of accomplishment you deserve, a much more long-lasting and substantial ego-boost than others could ever provide.
There are physical consequences you should expect as well.
Women, for example, who lose substantial body fat quickly find their sexual desires rising to new and sometimes unnerving heights.
That's not just because of achieving a more attractive body.
Fat cells store estrogen and releasing that fat introduces it into the bloodstream, raising sexual desire.
As you become able to move more freely, you'll find yourself wanting to do so, particularly during sex.
That's great! But be aware that the loose skin that results from rapid, substantial weight loss can take a while to readjust to a slimmer body.
It's a part of the process and should not be an occasion for despair that holds you back.
If you need a little extra help, consult with your physician about the possibility of cosmetic surgery.
