Why Marriage Problems Can Harm Your Wallet and Your Kids
First a quick quote:
You can use most any measure
When you're speaking of €Success'.
You can measure it in fancy home,
Expensive car or dress.
But€¦.the measure of your REAL success
Is the one you can not spend.
It's the way your kids describe YOU
When they're speaking to a friend!
- Martin Buxbaum
Top Marriage Counseling Detectives Mumbai
Better Marriage = Happier Kids
Now you might be thinking, what on earth has this got to do with my wallet? Well I am coming to that. But first let me explain. You're probably trying your best to be a good parent, right? Think for a moment about all the time, energy, and money you put into your children. You send them to the best schools, help them with their homework, buy them the best clothes, work hard to save for their education, take them to the best doctors, plan special birthday parties, drive them to cricket practice, dance lessons, music lessons, etc. and make their favorite dinner.
That's all fine, but guess what - the MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do for your children is NONE of those things. The most important thing you can do for your children has nothing to do with their education, entertainment, athletic endeavors, or even their physical health. The most important thing YOU can do for your children is to have a GREAT MARRIAGE with your spouse. It's hard to be a good parent unless you have a good marriage. Why? Because teaching your children how to succeed in love is your MOST IMPORTANT responsibility.
Do Your Kids a Favour - Be a Great Husband / Wife & Do Not Cheat on Your Spouse!
There will be nothing more important in your children's lives than the success of their marriage. (I know you know that.) And who's going to teach them how to love their spouse. You are! But they won't learn it from what you say, they'll learn it from the life you lead. They'll learn it from YOUR marriage. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, €Who you are speaks so loudly, I can't hear a word you're saying.€
Whatever you want your children to achieve in their life, you first have to achieve yourself. If you're struggling in your marriage, it's probably because your parents struggled too. So, who's going to break the cycle? Will YOU be the one to change things for generations to come? Or will your children suffer the same burden? Ball's in your court!! It's not easy to be what's called a €transition person.€ But it's do-able. YOU can be the €transition person€ in your lineage and pave a new path for future generations in your family.
There's nothing better for your children than to raised amidst the comfort of parents who love each other. And there's nothing more devastating to a young soul than to be the victim of a broken family.
Are You Studying Relationship Psychology to Understand Your Relationship
Are you studying relationship psychology in a bid to discover why you and your partner don't appear to be getting along very well? If it hasn't helped so far, I would suggest you give it a break. There are a huge number of relationship philosophy and psychology books out on the market but every one you read appears to contradict the others. In a recent interview, a relationship expert admitted that most therapist and counselors don't know how to fix a partnership. Sure they will give you the theory and the reasons behind some types of behavior, but whether that sorts out your particular problem is more a matter of luck than anything else. Of course counseling is indeed known to work when at times you need someone to just blurt out what's troubling you and gnawing at you from inside and many a times this can ease your suffering but it may not be the solution.
God knows how many times I have had to chug along for an evening drink with some of my male clients whose wives have been cheating on them and God knows how many times I wish they would just see a marriage counselor instead of narrating their sob stories to me! But then I realise that they want to involve me in their lives and want me to not just find evidence of their partner's infidelity but also become a shoulder for them to lean on. Sometimes I do think I should charge my male clients by the hour if they wish to have a drink with me and pour their heart out when I could be spending that time with my own family!
So I tell them - Every partnership is different and while some issues between men and women such as - who wants more sex, who does the most housework, who earns the most money, who finds the kids more often, can be similar. However at the end of the day the issues you are facing are as a direct result of who you and your partner are. Does that mean you can't find help? Of course not but you don't need a relationship psychology course to do it. What you need is a great self help book that will help you to communicate and relate to your partner better. Something for both of you to read and share.
It takes guts to admit that there are issues in your partnership that need working on. It is so much easier to put your head in the sand and hope that they will go away. But the sad fact is that most won't disappear for good. They may go away for a little while but they will come back and perhaps even worse than before. Problems have a way of developing a life of their own if they are not dealt with quickly and efficiently.
You and your partner have invested a lot in each other and so you should be willing to take one more step to try to prevent a breakup. So forget about studying relationship psychology and instead concentrate on making each other happy once again.
As a bynote let me add:
An Extra Marital Affair is Costly
A recent research study in the UK notes that having an extra-martial affair is a bad idea on a number of counts - 8,000 pounds to be exact. That translates into Rs. 6,40,0000/- and this does not include a trip to the divorce courts.
Unfaithful partners spend an average of 1,960 pounds on secret weekends away, 1,013 pounds for romantic meals and trips to out of town are another 916 pounds.
Among the other costs are flowers, chocs, underwear and jewellery at 1,057 pounds, while nights out cost 943-pound a year.
And 10 per cent buy partners gifts out of guilt. Twenty per cent carry two phones to cover tracks.
And if you think only you are paying, you are wrong. When your spouse does get a whiff of your philandering which eventually he / she will, they will contact extra marital affairs investigators like us to uncover all the saucy secrets which you have paid so much to hide and which we can uncover within a week, she / he will be paying us too and which is probably going to be reimbursed from your divorce settlement which is going to follow soon after!
Cheating is not a good idea for your wallets. Period! Like Hank Williams sang -
Your cheatin' heart,
Will make you weep,
You'll cry and cry,
And try to sleep,
But sleep won't come,
The whole night through,
Your cheatin heart, will tell on you€¦
If you have been the victim of a cheating husband or wife do not hesitate to contact me on my number 072084 17557 and we will find the evidence to let your mind rest and come to decisions armed with the correct facts and photographic and video evidence.
You can use most any measure
When you're speaking of €Success'.
You can measure it in fancy home,
Expensive car or dress.
But€¦.the measure of your REAL success
Is the one you can not spend.
It's the way your kids describe YOU
When they're speaking to a friend!
- Martin Buxbaum
Top Marriage Counseling Detectives Mumbai
Better Marriage = Happier Kids
Now you might be thinking, what on earth has this got to do with my wallet? Well I am coming to that. But first let me explain. You're probably trying your best to be a good parent, right? Think for a moment about all the time, energy, and money you put into your children. You send them to the best schools, help them with their homework, buy them the best clothes, work hard to save for their education, take them to the best doctors, plan special birthday parties, drive them to cricket practice, dance lessons, music lessons, etc. and make their favorite dinner.
That's all fine, but guess what - the MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do for your children is NONE of those things. The most important thing you can do for your children has nothing to do with their education, entertainment, athletic endeavors, or even their physical health. The most important thing YOU can do for your children is to have a GREAT MARRIAGE with your spouse. It's hard to be a good parent unless you have a good marriage. Why? Because teaching your children how to succeed in love is your MOST IMPORTANT responsibility.
Do Your Kids a Favour - Be a Great Husband / Wife & Do Not Cheat on Your Spouse!
There will be nothing more important in your children's lives than the success of their marriage. (I know you know that.) And who's going to teach them how to love their spouse. You are! But they won't learn it from what you say, they'll learn it from the life you lead. They'll learn it from YOUR marriage. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, €Who you are speaks so loudly, I can't hear a word you're saying.€
Whatever you want your children to achieve in their life, you first have to achieve yourself. If you're struggling in your marriage, it's probably because your parents struggled too. So, who's going to break the cycle? Will YOU be the one to change things for generations to come? Or will your children suffer the same burden? Ball's in your court!! It's not easy to be what's called a €transition person.€ But it's do-able. YOU can be the €transition person€ in your lineage and pave a new path for future generations in your family.
There's nothing better for your children than to raised amidst the comfort of parents who love each other. And there's nothing more devastating to a young soul than to be the victim of a broken family.
Are You Studying Relationship Psychology to Understand Your Relationship
Are you studying relationship psychology in a bid to discover why you and your partner don't appear to be getting along very well? If it hasn't helped so far, I would suggest you give it a break. There are a huge number of relationship philosophy and psychology books out on the market but every one you read appears to contradict the others. In a recent interview, a relationship expert admitted that most therapist and counselors don't know how to fix a partnership. Sure they will give you the theory and the reasons behind some types of behavior, but whether that sorts out your particular problem is more a matter of luck than anything else. Of course counseling is indeed known to work when at times you need someone to just blurt out what's troubling you and gnawing at you from inside and many a times this can ease your suffering but it may not be the solution.
God knows how many times I have had to chug along for an evening drink with some of my male clients whose wives have been cheating on them and God knows how many times I wish they would just see a marriage counselor instead of narrating their sob stories to me! But then I realise that they want to involve me in their lives and want me to not just find evidence of their partner's infidelity but also become a shoulder for them to lean on. Sometimes I do think I should charge my male clients by the hour if they wish to have a drink with me and pour their heart out when I could be spending that time with my own family!
So I tell them - Every partnership is different and while some issues between men and women such as - who wants more sex, who does the most housework, who earns the most money, who finds the kids more often, can be similar. However at the end of the day the issues you are facing are as a direct result of who you and your partner are. Does that mean you can't find help? Of course not but you don't need a relationship psychology course to do it. What you need is a great self help book that will help you to communicate and relate to your partner better. Something for both of you to read and share.
It takes guts to admit that there are issues in your partnership that need working on. It is so much easier to put your head in the sand and hope that they will go away. But the sad fact is that most won't disappear for good. They may go away for a little while but they will come back and perhaps even worse than before. Problems have a way of developing a life of their own if they are not dealt with quickly and efficiently.
You and your partner have invested a lot in each other and so you should be willing to take one more step to try to prevent a breakup. So forget about studying relationship psychology and instead concentrate on making each other happy once again.
As a bynote let me add:
An Extra Marital Affair is Costly
A recent research study in the UK notes that having an extra-martial affair is a bad idea on a number of counts - 8,000 pounds to be exact. That translates into Rs. 6,40,0000/- and this does not include a trip to the divorce courts.
Unfaithful partners spend an average of 1,960 pounds on secret weekends away, 1,013 pounds for romantic meals and trips to out of town are another 916 pounds.
Among the other costs are flowers, chocs, underwear and jewellery at 1,057 pounds, while nights out cost 943-pound a year.
And 10 per cent buy partners gifts out of guilt. Twenty per cent carry two phones to cover tracks.
And if you think only you are paying, you are wrong. When your spouse does get a whiff of your philandering which eventually he / she will, they will contact extra marital affairs investigators like us to uncover all the saucy secrets which you have paid so much to hide and which we can uncover within a week, she / he will be paying us too and which is probably going to be reimbursed from your divorce settlement which is going to follow soon after!
Cheating is not a good idea for your wallets. Period! Like Hank Williams sang -
Your cheatin' heart,
Will make you weep,
You'll cry and cry,
And try to sleep,
But sleep won't come,
The whole night through,
Your cheatin heart, will tell on you€¦
If you have been the victim of a cheating husband or wife do not hesitate to contact me on my number 072084 17557 and we will find the evidence to let your mind rest and come to decisions armed with the correct facts and photographic and video evidence.
