How to Fix a Relationship
It can be tough times when you feel like your relationship is on the rocks. If you aren't ready to throw in the towel though, you need to do what you can to save it. You won't regret such efforts in the end so give it a shot. You may be wondering how am I going to fix this relationship? It is almost past repair. There are steps you can take that will help regardless of what is going on.
Be honest with your partner about what the problems are. Chances are they already know the relationship has hit a tough patch. Let them know you are concerned about it and that you do want to do whatever you can to repair the damage and move on. Hopefully, both of you are on the same page and do want the relationship to work. If your partner isn't sure, then it is going to be harder to fix things, but not impossible, so don't give up.
Listen in a kind and open way to what your partner has to say as well and how they feel, relationship problems are always a two way street, two different opinions, two different solutions, typically. Be willing to allow your significant other an opinion, and be open to their form of a solution. Communication is always the key. Speaking clearing, and openly about what you feel is wrong without blaming your partner. Be aware that you do not want to put them on the defense. Speak with an open heart and mind. Wait until you have calmed down before starting the conversation. First take a walk, meditate, play with the dog. Likewise, you need to be willing to listen without speaking up in judgment, so he/she can tell you what they feel is wrong too.
Some small things you may be able to fix right then and there. For example, your partner may feel taken for granted that you don't call when you are going to be late for plans the two of you have made. You can agree to always call if you will be late or explain why you can't. You may be in a business meeting and isn't possible to grab your phone and make that call or text. If they know the circumstances, they can be more accepting when it happens.
How to fix a relationship involves both of you working on solutions, in a conscious manner, with an awareness to staying in your kind place, trying your best to have an open heart during it all.
Once the problems are out in the open, you will both feel much better. Pick one issue at a time and write down some possible solutions to make it better. Do this with each of your situations and put it all on paper. Don't worry if there are lots of things to fix in the relationship, just focus on what you can work on right now. One step at a time.
Some issues for example, such as trust, are going to take time to work out. It doesn't matter if the partner has a reason not to trust you or just their perception. Work on making the things better that you can right away. Make a pact to work as a team to work on the other issues in the long term.
Sometimes, the €fix' in relationship issues involves getting outside help. It just does work to follow tried and true methods that professionals have been trained to walk couples through together. This doesn't mean you run to your friends and family for advice, while your partner goes to his drinking buddies for a listening ear, either. It takes a commitment to learn new ways of doing things, healthy, kind and loving communication and being willing to keep it between yourselves while it is sorting out.
Individual and couple counseling or even online courses could help you to see things differently than before. You don't have to be married to go to couples counseling either. If the relationship matters to you, then speak up and let it be known that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen.
Be honest with your partner about what the problems are. Chances are they already know the relationship has hit a tough patch. Let them know you are concerned about it and that you do want to do whatever you can to repair the damage and move on. Hopefully, both of you are on the same page and do want the relationship to work. If your partner isn't sure, then it is going to be harder to fix things, but not impossible, so don't give up.
Listen in a kind and open way to what your partner has to say as well and how they feel, relationship problems are always a two way street, two different opinions, two different solutions, typically. Be willing to allow your significant other an opinion, and be open to their form of a solution. Communication is always the key. Speaking clearing, and openly about what you feel is wrong without blaming your partner. Be aware that you do not want to put them on the defense. Speak with an open heart and mind. Wait until you have calmed down before starting the conversation. First take a walk, meditate, play with the dog. Likewise, you need to be willing to listen without speaking up in judgment, so he/she can tell you what they feel is wrong too.
Some small things you may be able to fix right then and there. For example, your partner may feel taken for granted that you don't call when you are going to be late for plans the two of you have made. You can agree to always call if you will be late or explain why you can't. You may be in a business meeting and isn't possible to grab your phone and make that call or text. If they know the circumstances, they can be more accepting when it happens.
How to fix a relationship involves both of you working on solutions, in a conscious manner, with an awareness to staying in your kind place, trying your best to have an open heart during it all.
Once the problems are out in the open, you will both feel much better. Pick one issue at a time and write down some possible solutions to make it better. Do this with each of your situations and put it all on paper. Don't worry if there are lots of things to fix in the relationship, just focus on what you can work on right now. One step at a time.
Some issues for example, such as trust, are going to take time to work out. It doesn't matter if the partner has a reason not to trust you or just their perception. Work on making the things better that you can right away. Make a pact to work as a team to work on the other issues in the long term.
Sometimes, the €fix' in relationship issues involves getting outside help. It just does work to follow tried and true methods that professionals have been trained to walk couples through together. This doesn't mean you run to your friends and family for advice, while your partner goes to his drinking buddies for a listening ear, either. It takes a commitment to learn new ways of doing things, healthy, kind and loving communication and being willing to keep it between yourselves while it is sorting out.
Individual and couple counseling or even online courses could help you to see things differently than before. You don't have to be married to go to couples counseling either. If the relationship matters to you, then speak up and let it be known that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen.