If He Isn"t Father Material, Don"t Sleep With Him!
This has been somewhat of a problem with women from the beginning of time - choosing a man that is so obviously wrong for them and their situation because they think they can change him.
Ladies, it's time that we get real, especially when it comes to choosing the potential father of our child/children.
We women are an intuitive bunch.
We know if a man is bad for us and our future, but for some reason many of us choose to ignore these signs.
Don't fall into the trap.
Simply put, when it comes to choosing the father of your children - if he isn't father material, don't sleep with him! We all know at least one woman who deliberately got into a physical relationship with a man, knowing that if she became pregnant, he would either hit the hills or just be a flat out dead beat dad.
History has documented women who try to tie themselves to men by deliberately getting pregnant.
Now let's be real here, if you have to tie yourself to a man then that alone should tell you that you are not in a good relationship and this is not a good situation to bring a child into.
Many times it's the children that end up paying the price for this poor plan because they're borne to a father who doesn't want to have anything to do with them.
Some of us are just naïve and believe that a child can make a situation better.
But think about it for a minute, do you honestly know any woman who was in a bad relationship and had a child with that man and things became perfect?? I sure don't and neither do any of the women I know.
A child should not be used as a band aid for your relationship - the same problems you had when the child was not there, are the same problems (possibly more and worse) that you're going to have if a child enters the situation.
Not all women are going to know intuitively if a guy is bad father material or just not ready for kids, so here are some signs to watch out for:
Too many children are out there are in this situation and it negatively affects the rest of their lives.
So take a moment and think about who your sleeping with because that man could turn out to be the father of your child.
Ladies, it's time that we get real, especially when it comes to choosing the potential father of our child/children.
We women are an intuitive bunch.
We know if a man is bad for us and our future, but for some reason many of us choose to ignore these signs.
Don't fall into the trap.
Simply put, when it comes to choosing the father of your children - if he isn't father material, don't sleep with him! We all know at least one woman who deliberately got into a physical relationship with a man, knowing that if she became pregnant, he would either hit the hills or just be a flat out dead beat dad.
History has documented women who try to tie themselves to men by deliberately getting pregnant.
Now let's be real here, if you have to tie yourself to a man then that alone should tell you that you are not in a good relationship and this is not a good situation to bring a child into.
Many times it's the children that end up paying the price for this poor plan because they're borne to a father who doesn't want to have anything to do with them.
Some of us are just naïve and believe that a child can make a situation better.
But think about it for a minute, do you honestly know any woman who was in a bad relationship and had a child with that man and things became perfect?? I sure don't and neither do any of the women I know.
A child should not be used as a band aid for your relationship - the same problems you had when the child was not there, are the same problems (possibly more and worse) that you're going to have if a child enters the situation.
Not all women are going to know intuitively if a guy is bad father material or just not ready for kids, so here are some signs to watch out for:
- If he's constantly trying new projects and abandoning them once the thrill wears off.
Children are a LOT of work so if he's the type of person that you know would not be in it for the long haul, he shouldn't be in it at all - pun intended. - If you enter his apartment and all his plants are dead - take note.
If he can't take time out to water his African Violet once a week, this may not be the sign of man who's ready to take care of a child.
If he's managed to kill a cactus...
run! - If he's self-centered and likes being the focus of attention - he's not ready to have a child.
Kids will require a lot of attention and if he likes the spotlight on himself and is not willing to share it, he's not ready to be a father.
Consider also if he's self-centered, believe me when I say that child's welfare will not be at the top of his list.
Neither will yours. - Children require a ton of patience, and if your man is impatient, he may not be ready for fatherhood.
Can you really see him (not what you want to see but based on his real personality) patiently dealing with toys and food being thrown at his head, temper tantrums, snot, diaper changes and public meltdowns? If you cannot picture him in that situation, he may not be ready to be a dad. - Also, if he already has kids and he's not taking care of those kids, chances are, your child would also fall into that category eventually.
Don't take up a deadbeat dad as a project and try to fix him up.
Too many children are out there are in this situation and it negatively affects the rest of their lives.
So take a moment and think about who your sleeping with because that man could turn out to be the father of your child.
