Signs Of Unfaithfulness - The Divorce Catalysts (2)
In "Signs Of Unfaithfulness - The Divorce Catalysts (1)", I did say that divorce is not an event, but a process. In marriage so many insidious things, acts and attitudes come into play with the sole aim of bringing about a divorce. Most marriage couples do not know their spouses as they truly are. These people in their marriage pretend all the time, concealing their inadequacies but tell their spouse what they like to hear. Do not expect your unfaithful spouse to announce to you with a vuvuzela (the South African's local trumpet), "I am unfaithful" or carry a placard on their neck with the inscription, "I am only pretending to love you. Watch out for a divorce!" That surely will never happen! Rather, every person in marriage should look out for what I call the "the signs of unfaithfulness". These signs eventually speed up the divorce process.
I would like to conclude the other signs in this post.
Sign #7: Wounded spouse who have not recovered from his or her hurts.
In normal marriage life, many things transpire that can lead to hurts and offenses. In marriage life, I have discovered two groups of people. One group recuperates from the offenses and moves ahead in life. The other group harbors some lingering unforgiveness. Watch these people carefully. They are potential defectors.
Sign #8: A wife who feels too big to submit.
Any wife who is not prepared to submit to her husband may be too lofty for marriage. Husbands, please take very serious note of high and mighty wives who think certain tasks in marriage like cooking, taking care of husband's laundry and given their husbands sexual satisfaction, are below them. They will rebel one day one day!
Sign #9: A spouse who is furious anytime you correct him or her.
A man or woman will often have to correct his or her spouse. When he or she becomes irritated by correction, surely there must be some question about his or her character. A true love one, will never be furious when you reprove him or her. He or she will eagerly welcome the redress that makes him or her a better spouse. Be careful with a spouse who hates correction. Divorce is an ally to such people!
Sign #10: A spouse who gives excuses and continually justifies them.
When a simple discussion turns into a prolonged hot debate, you are dealing with a possible separatist. Watch out for wives or husbands who unremittingly refute any misconduct. It seems they are never wrong about anything. They never have anything to apologize about. They rather get angry when you seem to be despondent about something they are doing. They turn the tables on you and make you feel that you are a hard taskmaster. The consequence for stubbornness is indeed stern - rejection.
Sign #11: A spouse who does not keep his or her words.
A person who unremittingly makes promises and breaks them is untrustworthy. Unfaithfulness is a character flaw and it surpasses through every sphere of a person's life, including marriage life. Greatly adore your spouse who say, "I will do this" and does exactly what he or she promised.
Sign #12: A spouse who never appreciates whatever his or her spouse does.
A faithful husband or wife appreciates the good things his or her spouse does for him or her. His or her gratitude to his or her spouse is demonstrated when he or she constantly vocalizes his gratification by saying "Thank you". Why do you have to keep silent over a good deed done for you? Silence means something, which to me is a disparaging action!
Sign #13: A spouse who is not faithful to things you cherish.
You will never know how your husband or wife behaves when he or she is out of your view. But when you see him or her, just observe how he or she handles what you cherish, for example, your car, property or a relative. Do not think that his or her unfaithfulness will remain in these arena. It will certainly dribble into your relationship. Does your spouse irresponsibly handles your stuffs? You better watch out!
Sign #14: A spouse who commends wrong deeds.
Observe the things that your spouse have a high regard for and become involved with. Notice the things that he or she approves of. If he or she commends bad things, he or she may be bad him/herself. One day (surely, it will be sooner than you will think), he or she will exhibit what he or she believes to you in a grand style.
Sign #15: A spouse who complains a lot.
Unfaithful wives or husbands at heart become reluctant in what they do for their spouse and complain a lot, because they are not doing what they prefer to do.They are never satisfy with what they are given.
Sign #16: A spouse who pollutes you about others.
Always remember this: He that speaks negatively about somebody to you, will speak negatively about you to somebody. Take notice of a spouse who attempts to pollute your mind about people you are not familiar with.
Sign #17: A spouse who is fond of shifting blames.
Good and faithful husbands and wives do not shift blames, because they know that in a relationship, they are partly responsible for everything that happens. Bad wives and husbands say, "It's Your Fault!" Good wives and husbands say, "It's my fault! Please forgive me."
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I would like to conclude the other signs in this post.
Sign #7: Wounded spouse who have not recovered from his or her hurts.
In normal marriage life, many things transpire that can lead to hurts and offenses. In marriage life, I have discovered two groups of people. One group recuperates from the offenses and moves ahead in life. The other group harbors some lingering unforgiveness. Watch these people carefully. They are potential defectors.
Sign #8: A wife who feels too big to submit.
Any wife who is not prepared to submit to her husband may be too lofty for marriage. Husbands, please take very serious note of high and mighty wives who think certain tasks in marriage like cooking, taking care of husband's laundry and given their husbands sexual satisfaction, are below them. They will rebel one day one day!
Sign #9: A spouse who is furious anytime you correct him or her.
A man or woman will often have to correct his or her spouse. When he or she becomes irritated by correction, surely there must be some question about his or her character. A true love one, will never be furious when you reprove him or her. He or she will eagerly welcome the redress that makes him or her a better spouse. Be careful with a spouse who hates correction. Divorce is an ally to such people!
Sign #10: A spouse who gives excuses and continually justifies them.
When a simple discussion turns into a prolonged hot debate, you are dealing with a possible separatist. Watch out for wives or husbands who unremittingly refute any misconduct. It seems they are never wrong about anything. They never have anything to apologize about. They rather get angry when you seem to be despondent about something they are doing. They turn the tables on you and make you feel that you are a hard taskmaster. The consequence for stubbornness is indeed stern - rejection.
Sign #11: A spouse who does not keep his or her words.
A person who unremittingly makes promises and breaks them is untrustworthy. Unfaithfulness is a character flaw and it surpasses through every sphere of a person's life, including marriage life. Greatly adore your spouse who say, "I will do this" and does exactly what he or she promised.
Sign #12: A spouse who never appreciates whatever his or her spouse does.
A faithful husband or wife appreciates the good things his or her spouse does for him or her. His or her gratitude to his or her spouse is demonstrated when he or she constantly vocalizes his gratification by saying "Thank you". Why do you have to keep silent over a good deed done for you? Silence means something, which to me is a disparaging action!
Sign #13: A spouse who is not faithful to things you cherish.
You will never know how your husband or wife behaves when he or she is out of your view. But when you see him or her, just observe how he or she handles what you cherish, for example, your car, property or a relative. Do not think that his or her unfaithfulness will remain in these arena. It will certainly dribble into your relationship. Does your spouse irresponsibly handles your stuffs? You better watch out!
Sign #14: A spouse who commends wrong deeds.
Observe the things that your spouse have a high regard for and become involved with. Notice the things that he or she approves of. If he or she commends bad things, he or she may be bad him/herself. One day (surely, it will be sooner than you will think), he or she will exhibit what he or she believes to you in a grand style.
Sign #15: A spouse who complains a lot.
Unfaithful wives or husbands at heart become reluctant in what they do for their spouse and complain a lot, because they are not doing what they prefer to do.They are never satisfy with what they are given.
Sign #16: A spouse who pollutes you about others.
Always remember this: He that speaks negatively about somebody to you, will speak negatively about you to somebody. Take notice of a spouse who attempts to pollute your mind about people you are not familiar with.
Sign #17: A spouse who is fond of shifting blames.
Good and faithful husbands and wives do not shift blames, because they know that in a relationship, they are partly responsible for everything that happens. Bad wives and husbands say, "It's Your Fault!" Good wives and husbands say, "It's my fault! Please forgive me."
For more on how to deal with unfaithfulness in your relationship, please CLICK HERE [http://www.truthaboutloves.info]!
