How to Save Your Marriage
So many young brides have been heard saying that they would leave their husband in a minute if they ever caught him cheating on her.
Then the years pass and their love and attachment deepens.
They have children and build a family life together.
And then one day the unthinkable happens.
She discovers that he has been cheating.
Now, those words so confidently spoken years earlier seem to ring hollow.
Now she wants to know how to save a marriage because she does not want to throw away all of those good years with the man she loves.
But soon, the sadness gives way to anger and feelings of betrayal.
Do I really want to save my marriage? She asks herself.
Do I want to stay with this man who has been unfaithful to me? If you find yourself asking these and many other painful questions, here are some ideas about how to save a marriage after infidelity.
Forgiveness Whether you are a woman whose husband has been unfaithful, or a man who has discovered his wife's affair you must be willing to forgive them and let it go quickly.
Forgiveness does not make what they did OK with you, nor does it mean that you are giving them carte blanche to do it again.
It simply means that you are letting their mistake go and agree to never hold it against them again.
Communication Open, honest communication is one of the most vital ingredients in a marriage.
When you are not longer communicating, it weakens the bond of love and leaves your partner in need of someone to confide in so that they can feel heard and understood.
You may want to work with a marriage counselor to facilitate getting your communication back on track with one another.
Restoring Trust Infidelity means breaking the trust that you once shared.
Now there is that nagging question in your mind when he leaves the house, or when she calls to say that she is working late again.
If you want to know how to save a marriage you have to be willing to trust again.
Accountability Because that trust was violated, now there is a need for accountability.
If you have been unfaithful to your spouse it is your job to make them feel like they can trust you again.
You must be willing to tell them your whereabouts at all times.
You must be willing to check in when they get worried and ease your spouse's mind.
Beginning again You must both agree to wipe the slate clean and renew your efforts to be devoted to one another as man and wife.
When things are back on track in your marriage you might consider renewing your vows to remind each other how much you love each other and that you would marry all over again a thousand times.
In this fast moving world we are all in such a hurry.
Couples should slow down and take quality time for themselves.
Set aside a regular date night so that you can keep the lines of communication open and active.
Guard your relationship so that it will last for as long as you both live.
Then the years pass and their love and attachment deepens.
They have children and build a family life together.
And then one day the unthinkable happens.
She discovers that he has been cheating.
Now, those words so confidently spoken years earlier seem to ring hollow.
Now she wants to know how to save a marriage because she does not want to throw away all of those good years with the man she loves.
But soon, the sadness gives way to anger and feelings of betrayal.
Do I really want to save my marriage? She asks herself.
Do I want to stay with this man who has been unfaithful to me? If you find yourself asking these and many other painful questions, here are some ideas about how to save a marriage after infidelity.
Forgiveness Whether you are a woman whose husband has been unfaithful, or a man who has discovered his wife's affair you must be willing to forgive them and let it go quickly.
Forgiveness does not make what they did OK with you, nor does it mean that you are giving them carte blanche to do it again.
It simply means that you are letting their mistake go and agree to never hold it against them again.
Communication Open, honest communication is one of the most vital ingredients in a marriage.
When you are not longer communicating, it weakens the bond of love and leaves your partner in need of someone to confide in so that they can feel heard and understood.
You may want to work with a marriage counselor to facilitate getting your communication back on track with one another.
Restoring Trust Infidelity means breaking the trust that you once shared.
Now there is that nagging question in your mind when he leaves the house, or when she calls to say that she is working late again.
If you want to know how to save a marriage you have to be willing to trust again.
Accountability Because that trust was violated, now there is a need for accountability.
If you have been unfaithful to your spouse it is your job to make them feel like they can trust you again.
You must be willing to tell them your whereabouts at all times.
You must be willing to check in when they get worried and ease your spouse's mind.
Beginning again You must both agree to wipe the slate clean and renew your efforts to be devoted to one another as man and wife.
When things are back on track in your marriage you might consider renewing your vows to remind each other how much you love each other and that you would marry all over again a thousand times.
In this fast moving world we are all in such a hurry.
Couples should slow down and take quality time for themselves.
Set aside a regular date night so that you can keep the lines of communication open and active.
Guard your relationship so that it will last for as long as you both live.
