I experienced an emotional breakup with my ex squeeze. I needed to resume the relationship as quickly as possible but I had to face the actuality that this barely happens. My strongest instinct after the breakup was to call text and email my past lover. Luckily , reality sat in and I realized that these actions alone wouldn't bring the individual I love back into my life. I want to discuss positive steps to getting my ex back while relaying my story to readers.

Positive step number one

I didn't contact my ex for a while. It was tempting to contact my ex by any means possible but I fought the urge to do so. My past love informed me that she required space , I respected her wishes. At first I needed to pay no attention to her request but I realized fast that I might be misconstrued as a stalker , therefore , I respected her request.

Positive step number 2

Although it was tricky, I accepted the incontrovertible fact that the relationship is over. I did not want to waste my time luxuriating in the emotion of denial. I had to allow myself time to start the healing process. There are times in our lives that we must leave scenarios up to destiny. If the relationship is meant to be, it'll occur.

Positive step number 3

After giving my ex squeeze the space she requested, I respected her wishes and did not contact her. After awhile, she did reach me. I think that allowing our exes to make the first contact is significant in getting back together. When I viewed her number on my cell phone, my heart straight away exploded. I quickly reminded myself that a simple telephone call didn't constitute the undeniable fact that she wished to get back together. I waited twenty-four hours and called her back. She did not mention getting back together and merely needed to talk. I kept the conversation polite and short and informed her I had to be somewhere at a particular time and I hung up the phone with a polite "goodbye".

Positive step number four

I remember the day my ex called me and needed to "get together". I was torn on this issue because frankly, I was still in love with her. I did not know if she wanted to get back together or if she was bored. I contained my excitement and in my most civilised voice, informed her I was free. She recommended that we meet out for coffee the next day. I informed her I was occupied that day but I could meet her out the following day at three PM ( I didn't need her to think I was available for her any time she beckoned ).

I met her out for coffee on the day we delegated and I kept the conversation light. I didn't ask her about her dating life. I avoided questions about my own. I was not dating anyone but I did not need her to know this. In my eyes, she lost the concession in knowing about my private life when she dumped me ( a touch of bitterness there ).

Positive step number 5

Eventually, my ex did wish to get back together. I immediately wanted to reunite but the simple fact was, bringing together after a break takes time. If you want to do things right, you'll hold off on getting back with any person till the flaws in the relationship get handled by you and your ex girlfriend. I made my ex girl understand that she seemed to make a mistake by jettisoning me with the steps mentioned in this article. We are now brought back together but with a better point of view on not simply the relationship but also our lives together. I by no means was perfect but I was hurt that my past love dumped me because of a misunderstanding. I wanted her to realize that people aren't completely perfect and relationships should not be lost in the heat of the moment.

These positive steps in getting my ex back worked for me as I'm hoping they work for you as well in your journey in dealing with hurtful breakups.