Your Boyfriend Broke Up With You - Now What Do You Do?
Breaking up is often a very painful experience.
Not knowing what caused this break-up could be even more agonizing.
When it's time to reckon where the relationship went sour, it's natural to feel guilty; but please don't succumb to excessive guilt.
There's a high probability for the fault to be on both sides.
Your boyfriend could have had his own reasons or misunderstanding for the split-up.
Do you still love him? Do you want to patch up with him and get together again? Here are a few pointers for you:
Address the letter to your ex, write whatever's in your mind, rebuke him if you want; just pour out your mind into this letter.
Once you're done, instead of sending the letter to him, burn it.
This way, you've closed your relationship.
Both of you will have things that belong to the other.
Make sure you return whatever's his; you may have his t-shirt, books or other personal belongings.
And get your stuff back from him.
If you're unsure of what to do with precious gifts, just keep it in a box and set it aside for now.
Most important, make sure you don't owe him any money and get back whatever he owes you.
Close your joint accounts in the bank and settle any other money-related matter.
Once you've settled the belongings issue, make a deal with him to halt all communication for at least a month.
If you've been meeting up every other day, this may be a tough thing to do; but it's the wisest decision, considering your position and your need to move on.
Breaking up with someone you loved dearly may be really painful; but don't lose all hope and think of this as the end of your life.
Just remember, whatever happens is for the best.
Who knows, maybe all this happened so that you could meet the person who's really made for you.
You should also remember, a break up may be because of a temporary misunderstanding.
This need not signify the end of your relationship.
If your instincts say you could regain his love and trust, put in some efforts to get him back.
If your love is true, a break up could be just one of those things that happen in courtship.
Not knowing what caused this break-up could be even more agonizing.
When it's time to reckon where the relationship went sour, it's natural to feel guilty; but please don't succumb to excessive guilt.
There's a high probability for the fault to be on both sides.
Your boyfriend could have had his own reasons or misunderstanding for the split-up.
Do you still love him? Do you want to patch up with him and get together again? Here are a few pointers for you:
- Give him some private time; don't keep bugging him, calling him up or messaging him.
Maybe a few days away from you might make him miss your presence and want you. - Don't feel awkward if you want to flirt with other guys when your boyfriend is watching.
He may even feel jealous and want to get back with you. - If you manage to get together again for an experimental session, make sure you don't bring up old issues.
Be cool and make him feel comfortable without making too much of a fuss.
If however, you feel there's no way to remedy this break up, take it in your stride and get on with your life.
Don't keep mooning over him and waste your time.
Address the letter to your ex, write whatever's in your mind, rebuke him if you want; just pour out your mind into this letter.
Once you're done, instead of sending the letter to him, burn it.
This way, you've closed your relationship.
Both of you will have things that belong to the other.
Make sure you return whatever's his; you may have his t-shirt, books or other personal belongings.
And get your stuff back from him.
If you're unsure of what to do with precious gifts, just keep it in a box and set it aside for now.
Most important, make sure you don't owe him any money and get back whatever he owes you.
Close your joint accounts in the bank and settle any other money-related matter.
Once you've settled the belongings issue, make a deal with him to halt all communication for at least a month.
If you've been meeting up every other day, this may be a tough thing to do; but it's the wisest decision, considering your position and your need to move on.
Breaking up with someone you loved dearly may be really painful; but don't lose all hope and think of this as the end of your life.
Just remember, whatever happens is for the best.
Who knows, maybe all this happened so that you could meet the person who's really made for you.
You should also remember, a break up may be because of a temporary misunderstanding.
This need not signify the end of your relationship.
If your instincts say you could regain his love and trust, put in some efforts to get him back.
If your love is true, a break up could be just one of those things that happen in courtship.
