The Behavior of Autistic Kids: Common Parenting Mistakes
This is all about Parents of Autistic Kids when they make mistakes while growing up their children. They generally don't accept their kids the way they are. The only way is to you should go forward and accept them the way they are and should know that the kid is autistic. Make a promise to yourself that you are going to give your best effort to grow them up.
There is another problem with some parents. They behave with their kids as if they are very small baby. This should not happen, if you child is 16 years old make sure he or she is behaving as a child of the same age. If you are not allowing him or her to do their work of their own then they won't grow up and the mind would be like a small kid forever. So even if they become adult they will have a small kid's behavior in them.
For example there is a mother who is of trim figure and small size. The son has grown up and is six feet four. Now if the son hits is head hardly against a wall or anything what the mother is going to do? If there has not been any behavior plan cultivated in that child how is the mother going to react? Even if he has no intention he may hit his mother badly. Because he does not understand what he is doing?
And that is the reason behind I never let Ross to behave is such a manner. I keep telling my caretakers that I want Ross to be much disciplined. I don't want to see him behaving as 4 year old kid at the age of thirty. So my caretaker never takes a chance and now Ross behaves appropriately. Otherwise Ross has to go through a series of strict instruction like sitting on big heavy chair and too on his arms and respond to all the commands till gets calm down.
Sometimes the caretakers have to hold back and get control on him. But they avoid getting him on the floor because it is dangerous as due to which many deaths has taken place. Like he has to hold a basket which he has with him. Ross at his age knows that it is time to go off and usually lies down himself. We are trying with a weighted blanket and other things of same kind.
Children who have been diagnosed for first time, shows these symptoms, this is because their sensory integration has still not started working. But to calm them down you can use a weighted blanket or give them a big hug, this will definitely bring a change in them. And after all with the help of behavior and communication interventions hopefully they will never reach the stage where Ross is now.
There is another problem with some parents. They behave with their kids as if they are very small baby. This should not happen, if you child is 16 years old make sure he or she is behaving as a child of the same age. If you are not allowing him or her to do their work of their own then they won't grow up and the mind would be like a small kid forever. So even if they become adult they will have a small kid's behavior in them.
For example there is a mother who is of trim figure and small size. The son has grown up and is six feet four. Now if the son hits is head hardly against a wall or anything what the mother is going to do? If there has not been any behavior plan cultivated in that child how is the mother going to react? Even if he has no intention he may hit his mother badly. Because he does not understand what he is doing?
And that is the reason behind I never let Ross to behave is such a manner. I keep telling my caretakers that I want Ross to be much disciplined. I don't want to see him behaving as 4 year old kid at the age of thirty. So my caretaker never takes a chance and now Ross behaves appropriately. Otherwise Ross has to go through a series of strict instruction like sitting on big heavy chair and too on his arms and respond to all the commands till gets calm down.
Sometimes the caretakers have to hold back and get control on him. But they avoid getting him on the floor because it is dangerous as due to which many deaths has taken place. Like he has to hold a basket which he has with him. Ross at his age knows that it is time to go off and usually lies down himself. We are trying with a weighted blanket and other things of same kind.
Children who have been diagnosed for first time, shows these symptoms, this is because their sensory integration has still not started working. But to calm them down you can use a weighted blanket or give them a big hug, this will definitely bring a change in them. And after all with the help of behavior and communication interventions hopefully they will never reach the stage where Ross is now.