Is friendship important? Do you feel or think that others don't want to be your friend? Do you label yourself as "shy" or a "loner"? If you could look in a catalog to find the kind of friend you would like, what would you look for? How many of those characteristics do you share with others? May I challenge you to spend the next 30 days picking one of these affirmations each morning and repeat it over and over until it becomes automatic action? Write it out on a 3 by 5 card and slip it in your pocket.
Take it out many times and read it over and over.
If you do, I guarantee you in a month, you will have new friends who are nurturing and kind.
oToday, I will smile at someone new.
oToday, I will help someone who doesn't ask for help.
oToday, I will assume responsibility for my own choices.
I won't blame any one else.
oToday, I will look someone in the eye when I talk to them.
oToday, I will not say anything unkind.
oToday, I will give someone a compliment.
oToday, I will apologize when I make a wrong choice in my words, actions and assumptions.
Today, I will stand up for somebody if other people bad mouth or gossip about them.
oToday I will tell the truth all day.
oToday, I will not exaggerate or brag about myself.
oToday I will laugh at someone's joke.
oToday, I will listen carefully to someone else's story and not interrupt.
oToday, I will be careful about people's boundaries and stop myself before I go too far.
oToday I will ask politely for what I want and need.
oToday, I will not be afraid to tell someone I like them.
oToday, I will not feel left out.
oToday, I will recognize that when someone is cranky, it isn't always about me.
They may just be having a bad day.
oToday, I will tell someone I am sorry and ask them to forgive me.
oToday, I will find someone new to have lunch with.
oToday, I will do something kind for someone else.
oToday, I will speak to someone who kind of scares or intimidates me.
oToday, I will send a birthday card or just a "thinking of you" card to someone.
oToday, I will remember that most people want to like me, they just don't know me yet.
oToday, I will be brave and ask if I can join in the fun.
oToday, if someone says something unkind to me, I will smile and say, "Why would you want to hurt my feelings?" oToday, I will smile and say hello to 25 people.
oToday, I will remember that I have be open to friends from all kinds of places.
oToday, I will ask someone to teach me something I don't know much about.
oToday, I will agree to do what my friends want to do, even if I would rather do something else.
oToday, I will let someone else go in front of me in line.
oToday, I will share my snack or lunch with someone else.
oToday I will tell 5 people thank you.
oToday, I will call someone and not just wait for them to call me.
oToday, I will not keep score on who called or paid or chose first last time.
I will know that it doesn't really matter.
What matters is being together and having fun.
oToday, I will offer to loan somebody something of mine that I think they would enjoy.
oToday, I will think of a group of organization I would like to join.
oToday, I will do more than I am asked to do.
And I will do it with a smile.
oToday, I will ask someone to join us.
Will you do this for yourself and those who would like to be your friend but are afraid of rejection? Come on, I dare you.
Just try it, you will be glad you did.
© Judy H.
Wright