Why Are You Still A Single Woman?
First off, know this: If you're a woman who is single or divorced, it's not your fault.
If you are one in five women in their forties who finds herself childless, it's not your fault.
If you have no trouble meeting men but find few who will commit, it's not your fault.
Your predicament isn't caused by your choices.
It's been caused by a shake up of love's playing board.
Simply put, you're playing a brand new game with an out-dated rule book.
The new world of dating, mating and relating is filled with characters who lurk about as a distraction for your mission -- to attach in a meaningful way.
There are narcissistic metrosexual men who require more mirror time than you, video gaming men who would rather sink time into a risky web business than get a real job, men who think a weekly hook-up is a relationship or a sperm deposit is fatherhood, and married men who sext more than a smoker inhales.
And then there are the female players whose female-to-female competition make the March madness final four look like a tea party.
There are MILF's whose place used to be in the home, not the gym and the bar.
The cougars, who are spoiling young men with their money and sexual experience.
And the many, many peer women who hand out free sex while unknowingly training an entire generation of men to ignore the art of courtship.
I mean, why pay for a date, when you can just text in a hook-up? And then there's you.
The responsible woman who has done all the right things to not appear needy.
You own your car, a closet full of clothes, maybe a condo or a house, and you have a great career.
But your eggs are getting old.
Or have withered with the wait.
Why? you ask.
Why? The roots of all this nonsense lie in a ginormous cultural shift.
I've noticed that most women aren't even aware that the rules of the game of love have been dramatically changing over the last couple decades.
In fact many American women hold a mantasy that is better suited to the 1950's than this millennium.
Back in the last mid-century, by the age of 27, most men held a good job, had a mortgage and were married.
Today, that description more closely matches the average woman, albeit without the wedding band.
So what's going on? What's going on is a dramatic shift in our relationship landscape.
Women are gaining power and with economic success comes sexual freedom -- no need to withhold sex until a man signs up for a trip to the altar.
Yep, the rise of women has created a "No-Rules Relationship Revolution" where anything goes.
Traditional marriage is declining.
Hook ups are mainstream.
Women own their own orgasm.
Yippee! But there's a hangover to this party.
It's the side effect of the economy of sex.
When women rise in power, sex rises in supply in a culture.
When sex is in high supply, two things happen to men.
A) They are less likely to commit to one woman so traditional marriage declines.
,and B) Men get lazy.
Yep, easy sex means men tend to lose ambition and make less money.
Apparently one of the reasons men strive for financial security is to secure a good woman, but when she comes for free, that urge declines.
So the payback for our sexual freedom is that there are fewer commitment oriented men who are also good providers.
Thus the fascinating statistic that 40& of American babies are born out of wedlock.
If you are one in five women in their forties who finds herself childless, it's not your fault.
If you have no trouble meeting men but find few who will commit, it's not your fault.
Your predicament isn't caused by your choices.
It's been caused by a shake up of love's playing board.
Simply put, you're playing a brand new game with an out-dated rule book.
The new world of dating, mating and relating is filled with characters who lurk about as a distraction for your mission -- to attach in a meaningful way.
There are narcissistic metrosexual men who require more mirror time than you, video gaming men who would rather sink time into a risky web business than get a real job, men who think a weekly hook-up is a relationship or a sperm deposit is fatherhood, and married men who sext more than a smoker inhales.
And then there are the female players whose female-to-female competition make the March madness final four look like a tea party.
There are MILF's whose place used to be in the home, not the gym and the bar.
The cougars, who are spoiling young men with their money and sexual experience.
And the many, many peer women who hand out free sex while unknowingly training an entire generation of men to ignore the art of courtship.
I mean, why pay for a date, when you can just text in a hook-up? And then there's you.
The responsible woman who has done all the right things to not appear needy.
You own your car, a closet full of clothes, maybe a condo or a house, and you have a great career.
But your eggs are getting old.
Or have withered with the wait.
Why? you ask.
Why? The roots of all this nonsense lie in a ginormous cultural shift.
I've noticed that most women aren't even aware that the rules of the game of love have been dramatically changing over the last couple decades.
In fact many American women hold a mantasy that is better suited to the 1950's than this millennium.
Back in the last mid-century, by the age of 27, most men held a good job, had a mortgage and were married.
Today, that description more closely matches the average woman, albeit without the wedding band.
So what's going on? What's going on is a dramatic shift in our relationship landscape.
Women are gaining power and with economic success comes sexual freedom -- no need to withhold sex until a man signs up for a trip to the altar.
Yep, the rise of women has created a "No-Rules Relationship Revolution" where anything goes.
Traditional marriage is declining.
Hook ups are mainstream.
Women own their own orgasm.
Yippee! But there's a hangover to this party.
It's the side effect of the economy of sex.
When women rise in power, sex rises in supply in a culture.
When sex is in high supply, two things happen to men.
A) They are less likely to commit to one woman so traditional marriage declines.
,and B) Men get lazy.
Yep, easy sex means men tend to lose ambition and make less money.
Apparently one of the reasons men strive for financial security is to secure a good woman, but when she comes for free, that urge declines.
So the payback for our sexual freedom is that there are fewer commitment oriented men who are also good providers.
Thus the fascinating statistic that 40& of American babies are born out of wedlock.
