How to Convince a Girl to Like You - Dating Tips For Men
OK, I should point out that the title of this piece is slightly mean on my part.
If you're reading this, excited that finally you will get the magic piece of advice that you need to get that special girl you've had your eye on for ages, then think on.
Because you can never convince a girl (or anyone for that matter), to like you.
I see guys doing this all the time - they try and logically convince her that they are a nice guy, that they will take care of her, never cheat on her (not like her exes did), they have a good job, they like animals..
..
the list is endless.
The problem is that attraction (which let's face it, is what we are talking about here) is not a logical thing - it is a feeling.
It is something that a girl suddenly experiences and often sneaks up on her by surprise 'hey, I quite like this guy!' It is not triggered by a list of supposedly desirable qualities.
So here it is - you can never convince her to like you.
Not by logically giving a list of reasons, not by trying to buy her affections, not by begging like a little boy (I mean, come on), not by trying to bully your way in.
All you can do (and yes, this is a very consistent theme in my posts) is figure out, right down to a core level, who you are, what you stand for.
You also need to work out the kind of people you want to be spending your time with, and the people you don't want to spend your time with.
And then stay consistent to those beliefs, until you have reason to change them (based on new realisations that you may make for your own reasons, not for the approval of others).
What you will find is that like attracts like.
So the more true you are to your core self, the more people you will attract into your life that are just like you.
When people like this appear in your life, you suddenly find that connection is easy.
You no longer have to fish for things to say, or try to make them like you.
You can just be completely natural, and everything will flow effortlessly.
The mistake most of us guys like is trying to be all things to all people, in the hope that someone will like us.
We think that the more polarized our opinions are, the more niche hobbies that we participate in, that the lower the chance is that a girl will like us - because we think 'well what if she doesn't like rock climbing and she finds out I love rock climbing?' So we make ourselves really generic, so as not to put anybody off.
But what we should be doing is making ourselves as specific and niche as possible.
Yes, a large percentage of women won't have an interest in you, but there will be a small subset who will go crazy over you.
You will find that these are the ones you would have wanted to spend your time with anyway.
After all, why would you want to spend your time with someone you have nothing in common with?
If you're reading this, excited that finally you will get the magic piece of advice that you need to get that special girl you've had your eye on for ages, then think on.
Because you can never convince a girl (or anyone for that matter), to like you.
I see guys doing this all the time - they try and logically convince her that they are a nice guy, that they will take care of her, never cheat on her (not like her exes did), they have a good job, they like animals..
..
the list is endless.
The problem is that attraction (which let's face it, is what we are talking about here) is not a logical thing - it is a feeling.
It is something that a girl suddenly experiences and often sneaks up on her by surprise 'hey, I quite like this guy!' It is not triggered by a list of supposedly desirable qualities.
So here it is - you can never convince her to like you.
Not by logically giving a list of reasons, not by trying to buy her affections, not by begging like a little boy (I mean, come on), not by trying to bully your way in.
All you can do (and yes, this is a very consistent theme in my posts) is figure out, right down to a core level, who you are, what you stand for.
You also need to work out the kind of people you want to be spending your time with, and the people you don't want to spend your time with.
And then stay consistent to those beliefs, until you have reason to change them (based on new realisations that you may make for your own reasons, not for the approval of others).
What you will find is that like attracts like.
So the more true you are to your core self, the more people you will attract into your life that are just like you.
When people like this appear in your life, you suddenly find that connection is easy.
You no longer have to fish for things to say, or try to make them like you.
You can just be completely natural, and everything will flow effortlessly.
The mistake most of us guys like is trying to be all things to all people, in the hope that someone will like us.
We think that the more polarized our opinions are, the more niche hobbies that we participate in, that the lower the chance is that a girl will like us - because we think 'well what if she doesn't like rock climbing and she finds out I love rock climbing?' So we make ourselves really generic, so as not to put anybody off.
But what we should be doing is making ourselves as specific and niche as possible.
Yes, a large percentage of women won't have an interest in you, but there will be a small subset who will go crazy over you.
You will find that these are the ones you would have wanted to spend your time with anyway.
After all, why would you want to spend your time with someone you have nothing in common with?
