Think Like A Narcissist For Survival
Having been married to a Narcissist for six and a half long years, taught me I had to realize exactly what I was dealing with.
Although at the beginning I could not put my finger on it, as time went by I came to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior.
Through trial and error I learned how to stop some of his most offensive behaviors.
I did this simply by emulating his own behaviors back to him.
This could not be done at the time of his offensive behaviors, but had to occur at a later time to catch him off guard.
That seemed to be the most effective tactic I could use on my narcissistic abuser.
How did I accomplish this? I started thinking like the Narcissist, as in what gives a shock reaction? A shock reaction seems to be their greatest goal in dealing with close relationships.
The best example I can give of this would be a situation where my ex liked to talk about "feces" (he used a crass slang for this word), and or bowel movements.
I endured hearing about his bowel movements sometimes three or four times a day.
This went on for the first two years of our marriage and he seemed to enjoy the way I would cringe when he would erupt into this spiel about his "bowel movements".
This continued until one day, I waited until he was in a fairly complacent mood and I went into a spiel about how I had diarrhea and proceeded to grossly describe the events that followed.
He never mentioned feces or his "bowel movements" again for the next four years.
What a discovery! From that day on I began to see things from a Narcissist's perspective and I was able to combat most of his offensive behaviors by extinguishing them permanently through emulating the behavior back to him at a later time when he did not expect it.
It is imperative that you pick the right timing.
If you exhibit his behaviors right after he does, you will only succeed in angering him and having him turn the situation around saying you did "whatever" first.
You must think like a Narcissist and wait for a time that you can elicit the "shock and awe", just as they do.
This technique will not make your life with the Narcissist better but, it will help you to lessen the crazy behaviors until you can escape safely.
This became a great survival tactic for me until I finally escaped this insane relationship.
Although at the beginning I could not put my finger on it, as time went by I came to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior.
Through trial and error I learned how to stop some of his most offensive behaviors.
I did this simply by emulating his own behaviors back to him.
This could not be done at the time of his offensive behaviors, but had to occur at a later time to catch him off guard.
That seemed to be the most effective tactic I could use on my narcissistic abuser.
How did I accomplish this? I started thinking like the Narcissist, as in what gives a shock reaction? A shock reaction seems to be their greatest goal in dealing with close relationships.
The best example I can give of this would be a situation where my ex liked to talk about "feces" (he used a crass slang for this word), and or bowel movements.
I endured hearing about his bowel movements sometimes three or four times a day.
This went on for the first two years of our marriage and he seemed to enjoy the way I would cringe when he would erupt into this spiel about his "bowel movements".
This continued until one day, I waited until he was in a fairly complacent mood and I went into a spiel about how I had diarrhea and proceeded to grossly describe the events that followed.
He never mentioned feces or his "bowel movements" again for the next four years.
What a discovery! From that day on I began to see things from a Narcissist's perspective and I was able to combat most of his offensive behaviors by extinguishing them permanently through emulating the behavior back to him at a later time when he did not expect it.
It is imperative that you pick the right timing.
If you exhibit his behaviors right after he does, you will only succeed in angering him and having him turn the situation around saying you did "whatever" first.
You must think like a Narcissist and wait for a time that you can elicit the "shock and awe", just as they do.
This technique will not make your life with the Narcissist better but, it will help you to lessen the crazy behaviors until you can escape safely.
This became a great survival tactic for me until I finally escaped this insane relationship.