5 Divorce Warning Signs Men Need to Watch Out For
Craig is frustrated and doesn't know what to do.
His relationship with his wife has declined over the past year.
He is worried about what is really going on.
Is his wife having an affair? Is she sick of being married to him? Does she even love him anymore? He also wonders if he really loves her anymore.
Sometimes, when one partner lets the other know that he or she wants a divorce, it can feel like a big surprise and a shock.
However, if both were to look back at the course of the relationship, they will probably see that there were warning signs that divorce was on its way.
If the two had recognized these signs earlier, perhaps steps could have been taken to turn around the disconnection and rebuild the closeness along with their marriage, if that's what both want.
Don't wait until it's too late.
Look for these warning signs that divorce may be imminent for your relationship and then have the courage to make the necessary changes to save your marriage.
Here are 5 warning signs and what to do about them...
#1: Distance A sure sign of trouble in a love relationship or marriage is distance.
If there is distance between you and your mate, you will most likely sense it.
This may be a recognition that you and your partner haven't been as intimate as you usually are.
It could be a significant diminishing in sharing and openness than you used to have.
When you notice distance between yourself and your mate, sit up and do something about it! First of all, look at the ways that you might be pushing your partner away.
Then, let her know that you would like to deliberately re-connect.
This could take the form of new agreements between you two and may involve trying some new ways to re-start the spark.
#2: Leading separate lives Related to distance, couples who end up getting divorced tend to lead relatively separate lives.
You and your partner don't need to be inseparable or "joined at the hip" in order to stay connected and close.
Yes, of course, maintain your individual interests, hobbies and friends.
At the same time, make it a priority to spend quality and quantity time together.
Find some common interests and activities that you both enjoy and make regular dates to do them.
This is a simple idea that is not all that difficult to put into action when you really think about it.
Even if you and your partner make a commitment to sit down together for 5 minutes each and every day, look into each other's eyes and share about your day, this can bring improvements.
#3: Little or no appreciation (on both sides) Appreciation is the proverbial oil that greases the squeaky wheel.
When you feel love and gratitude for what your partner does for you, your family, your community, etc.
make sure that you let him or her know it-- regularly.
If you don't feel appreciation for your partner, perhaps it's time for you to find out why.
Do you feel threatened by her achievements? Can you only see the ways that she lets you down? It's not a good idea to force this or to ignore the needs that you have that aren't being met.
But, challenge yourself to find at least 1 thing each day to appreciate about your woman and then tell her.
#4: Resentment growing to fever pitch Address irritations and annoyances before they turn into resentments that build and build until they are out of your control and ruin your marriage.
It can happen-- and it does.
This doesn't mean that you harp on your woman about every little thing she does that gets on your nerves.
Get clear about what is truly an issue and what you'd like to be different.
Then, make requests that will help you find resolution to these irritations.
#5: No communication or only one-sided communication When you stop talking, the connection also stops between you and your woman.
If only one of you talks, the same distance can occur.
Now, of course, yelling and fighting are not conducive to a healthy relationship.
However, it's vital for you and your partner to learn how to come together and talk about even the most difficult topics-- in ways that actually move you two together.
His relationship with his wife has declined over the past year.
He is worried about what is really going on.
Is his wife having an affair? Is she sick of being married to him? Does she even love him anymore? He also wonders if he really loves her anymore.
Sometimes, when one partner lets the other know that he or she wants a divorce, it can feel like a big surprise and a shock.
However, if both were to look back at the course of the relationship, they will probably see that there were warning signs that divorce was on its way.
If the two had recognized these signs earlier, perhaps steps could have been taken to turn around the disconnection and rebuild the closeness along with their marriage, if that's what both want.
Don't wait until it's too late.
Look for these warning signs that divorce may be imminent for your relationship and then have the courage to make the necessary changes to save your marriage.
Here are 5 warning signs and what to do about them...
#1: Distance A sure sign of trouble in a love relationship or marriage is distance.
If there is distance between you and your mate, you will most likely sense it.
This may be a recognition that you and your partner haven't been as intimate as you usually are.
It could be a significant diminishing in sharing and openness than you used to have.
When you notice distance between yourself and your mate, sit up and do something about it! First of all, look at the ways that you might be pushing your partner away.
Then, let her know that you would like to deliberately re-connect.
This could take the form of new agreements between you two and may involve trying some new ways to re-start the spark.
#2: Leading separate lives Related to distance, couples who end up getting divorced tend to lead relatively separate lives.
You and your partner don't need to be inseparable or "joined at the hip" in order to stay connected and close.
Yes, of course, maintain your individual interests, hobbies and friends.
At the same time, make it a priority to spend quality and quantity time together.
Find some common interests and activities that you both enjoy and make regular dates to do them.
This is a simple idea that is not all that difficult to put into action when you really think about it.
Even if you and your partner make a commitment to sit down together for 5 minutes each and every day, look into each other's eyes and share about your day, this can bring improvements.
#3: Little or no appreciation (on both sides) Appreciation is the proverbial oil that greases the squeaky wheel.
When you feel love and gratitude for what your partner does for you, your family, your community, etc.
make sure that you let him or her know it-- regularly.
If you don't feel appreciation for your partner, perhaps it's time for you to find out why.
Do you feel threatened by her achievements? Can you only see the ways that she lets you down? It's not a good idea to force this or to ignore the needs that you have that aren't being met.
But, challenge yourself to find at least 1 thing each day to appreciate about your woman and then tell her.
#4: Resentment growing to fever pitch Address irritations and annoyances before they turn into resentments that build and build until they are out of your control and ruin your marriage.
It can happen-- and it does.
This doesn't mean that you harp on your woman about every little thing she does that gets on your nerves.
Get clear about what is truly an issue and what you'd like to be different.
Then, make requests that will help you find resolution to these irritations.
#5: No communication or only one-sided communication When you stop talking, the connection also stops between you and your woman.
If only one of you talks, the same distance can occur.
Now, of course, yelling and fighting are not conducive to a healthy relationship.
However, it's vital for you and your partner to learn how to come together and talk about even the most difficult topics-- in ways that actually move you two together.
