No matter how smooth your break up was, there was a lot of stress involved.
Perhaps you feel hurt, sad, rejected or confused.
These feelings can make getting through the day a real chore, but yet you go on.
Your friends tell you that they understand, but how could they? Your ex was the love of your life, and all you want to do is win them back.
There's nothing wrong with that, but you need to know how to do it.
It won't be easy, but the first thing you must do is get your emotions in check.
You will need to be able to think clearly from this point forward if you want to get your ex back.
If your emotions are really difficult to deal with, then see a counselor to get some help.
The next step is to give your ex plenty of time and space.
That means no contact of any kind for a while.
You both need some time to think things through on your own.
Try to discover what really went wrong.
Be careful, most of the time our first ideas on what caused a break up are wrong or superficial.
You need to get to the root of the problem.
Once you think you have pinpointed the problem, and have given each other enough time, you can contact your ex.
This initial contact is only to set a time and place to talk to each other face-to-face.
It's purpose is not to spill your guts and tell them everything you've been thinking about.
If you do this, they will be less likely to meet you in person.
The first meeting is the most important one.
You need to take things seriously, but be calm at the same time.
Tell your ex what you have discovered and let them speak their mind as well.
Doing these things will help you win back the love of your life.