What Can I Do To Make Her Stay?
I will admit, us guys have a nasty habit of messing up with our girls and jeopardizing the relationships we have with them.
Time and again, our simplistic and idiotic mistakes threaten to end the things we hold dear, and we get to that desperate point where we have to figure out "how do I get her to stay?"Well, maybe I can help.
Figuring out how to get your girl to not leave you can hinge a lot on what's making her want to leave in the first place.
Figuring out what you're doing wrong can be a vital first step in keeping her from dumping you.
Some of you reading this will know what went wrong, but for those who don't there follows a small list of questions you can ask yourself.
-Did I violate her personal definition of unfaithfulness? -Did I say something stupid or make her feel bad about herself because of something I said? -Have I been making enough time in my life to spend with her, and make her feel loved? -Did I forget her birthday/our anniversary/Valentine's Day/Christmas? -Have I been supportive enough of her emotions and feelings? -Have I respected her opinion in the relationship and treated her as an equal? These are just a few things that can contribute to a problem, some more "deadly" than others, but really these are if anything just a part of what truly makes a woman want to leave her man.
More often than not, it's a collection or series of these problems over a long period of time that just make her fed up with you and desiring a way out.
There are "little things" and "big things.
"Little things are like forgetting a holiday or saying something really stupid and hurtful at just the wrong time...
and by calling them "little" things I don't want you to make the mistake of thinking that they're excusable and "no big deal.
"They hurt too, but they're just easier to fix than the "big" things.
Cheating on her, not supporting her emotions or helping her to feel loved and like she's important to you, and not spending enough time with her are all things that can be considered "big.
"These can hit hard in a relationship, and getting through one that's threatened by these can require a lot of sacrifice and change.
To heal a relationship caused by little things, it's important to first off completely stop doing them.
Don't add to your troubles by extending them.
Second, apologize!That's kind of a no-brainer, but a lot of guys get angry enough to feel like they don't have to apologize, and that sort of stubborn refusal is just paving the path she'll use to walk away.
And of course remember that when you apologize, it's important to MEAN it! Usually getting over little things isn't the end of the world, but it'll still require some serious care not to repeat them in the future.
Really most relationships don't end over little things, but they can add up and accumulate, stressing her out and eventually persuading her to just call it quits.
Big things are the real killers of relationships.
Cheating is a massive relationship killer, so all I can say on this one is don't EVER do it in the first place, and make sure you know what your woman considers being unfaithful...
sometimes all it takes is a lingering gaze with no follow-up intentions to make your girlfriend start to feel hurt.
There's no reason to look at other women anyways, you're with the best one in the world! Most of the problems in a relationship can be avoided by simply paying attention to your girlfriend and spending time with her, LISTENING.
Doing this will clue you in to how she's feeling about herself, you, and the two of you.
This can alert you to potential problems and help to avoid them anyways, as a lot of them stem from lack of communication or time spent with one another.
If you're in the middle of what could end up as a breakup, it's important to spend that time with her and really listen.
Whatever problems you're having, whatever it is you're doing or not doing, FIX IT as fast as possible!Don't take any chances with someone you love, make SURE she's happy with you.
Even if it means making a few sacrifices for the good of the both of you, it's your job to make sure she's happy...
and wouldn't you want her to be?
Time and again, our simplistic and idiotic mistakes threaten to end the things we hold dear, and we get to that desperate point where we have to figure out "how do I get her to stay?"Well, maybe I can help.
Figuring out how to get your girl to not leave you can hinge a lot on what's making her want to leave in the first place.
Figuring out what you're doing wrong can be a vital first step in keeping her from dumping you.
Some of you reading this will know what went wrong, but for those who don't there follows a small list of questions you can ask yourself.
-Did I violate her personal definition of unfaithfulness? -Did I say something stupid or make her feel bad about herself because of something I said? -Have I been making enough time in my life to spend with her, and make her feel loved? -Did I forget her birthday/our anniversary/Valentine's Day/Christmas? -Have I been supportive enough of her emotions and feelings? -Have I respected her opinion in the relationship and treated her as an equal? These are just a few things that can contribute to a problem, some more "deadly" than others, but really these are if anything just a part of what truly makes a woman want to leave her man.
More often than not, it's a collection or series of these problems over a long period of time that just make her fed up with you and desiring a way out.
There are "little things" and "big things.
"Little things are like forgetting a holiday or saying something really stupid and hurtful at just the wrong time...
and by calling them "little" things I don't want you to make the mistake of thinking that they're excusable and "no big deal.
"They hurt too, but they're just easier to fix than the "big" things.
Cheating on her, not supporting her emotions or helping her to feel loved and like she's important to you, and not spending enough time with her are all things that can be considered "big.
"These can hit hard in a relationship, and getting through one that's threatened by these can require a lot of sacrifice and change.
To heal a relationship caused by little things, it's important to first off completely stop doing them.
Don't add to your troubles by extending them.
Second, apologize!That's kind of a no-brainer, but a lot of guys get angry enough to feel like they don't have to apologize, and that sort of stubborn refusal is just paving the path she'll use to walk away.
And of course remember that when you apologize, it's important to MEAN it! Usually getting over little things isn't the end of the world, but it'll still require some serious care not to repeat them in the future.
Really most relationships don't end over little things, but they can add up and accumulate, stressing her out and eventually persuading her to just call it quits.
Big things are the real killers of relationships.
Cheating is a massive relationship killer, so all I can say on this one is don't EVER do it in the first place, and make sure you know what your woman considers being unfaithful...
sometimes all it takes is a lingering gaze with no follow-up intentions to make your girlfriend start to feel hurt.
There's no reason to look at other women anyways, you're with the best one in the world! Most of the problems in a relationship can be avoided by simply paying attention to your girlfriend and spending time with her, LISTENING.
Doing this will clue you in to how she's feeling about herself, you, and the two of you.
This can alert you to potential problems and help to avoid them anyways, as a lot of them stem from lack of communication or time spent with one another.
If you're in the middle of what could end up as a breakup, it's important to spend that time with her and really listen.
Whatever problems you're having, whatever it is you're doing or not doing, FIX IT as fast as possible!Don't take any chances with someone you love, make SURE she's happy with you.
Even if it means making a few sacrifices for the good of the both of you, it's your job to make sure she's happy...
and wouldn't you want her to be?
