Have You Tried and Tried, But Failed to Create a Life of Happiness and Meaning
Do you feel like a failure because you can't achieve the success other people seem to with personal growth and self-improvement work? Are you sick of trying things that just don't bring the results you want? If that's you, boy, can I ever relate! That was me too.
The challenges that life sends our way can really knock the wind out of our sails - no matter how motivated we try to be.
The thing with motivation is it doesn't last.
It has a certain shelf life - an expiry date.
So, what are we to do? Especially if we are alone, in a life of isolation for some reason.
My own discovery was that the more I felt I just wasn't doing "it" right, the more withdrawn I became.
The culprits were my own guilt and shame.
Somehow, there was something just plain wrong with me.
I was "different".
Sure, other people could focus on a great life - and it would come to them! But not for me.
Perhaps it wasn't meant to be.
I thought I was working very hard to bring wonderful things into my life, and I could not understand why it wasn't working! I spent lots of money on books, on tapes, on attending seminars, on hypnosis - you name it - I tried it.
But I still had the pain.
I still had the struggles.
I still had the self-blame haunting me.
Except for pain, I was numb.
It is SO different now! I'll explain how and why in a minute.
You may be alone, like I still am, or you might just be feeling alone even though you have people around you most of the time.
Pain, fear, guilt, shame and a low self-image can and do isolate people.
It is like being stuck in the back seat of a two-door car.
You are just going along for the ride.
You are in a body that's going through the motions.
You're trapped on the inside and just looking out at a world that seems to be passing you by.
If these words resonate with you, please read on.
You, my magnificent friend - remind me of me.
By now you should be very curious about what changed, so that I can truly say I am happy with my life.
I will try to supercharge just a few words that I hope will have impact for you.
Consider these as tips to hold in your consciousness, no matter what appears to be going on in your present life.
1.
YOU are not your pain, or poverty, or loneliness, or guilt or anger, or whatever it is that seems to overpower you right now.
2.
Your existence is a gift through which you are obligated to become the best you can be.
You are no accident! 3.
Your purpose is to find the ones you are to serve.
First on that list is YOU! You will find the "how" to serve others inside the recesses of your own Soul.
Your dreams and desires are your biggest and truest clues to the Path meant for you.
4.
Even if you have never thought you were worth much - you definitely are! There is no other single person on this planet who has your experience of life, who loves the little things that you do, or who can express your unique personal touch.
5.
If all this is true - and such things have been taught by the greatest philosophers and spiritual leaders throughout the ages - then just imagine what awaits your own awakening to the glory that is you, right now!6.
Here is one thing you MUST do - and you MUST start now! Allow yourself to run wild with your imagining of a life that holds deep meaning for you.
7.
You must also write down all the wonderful details using the most intense emotions you can about how that life feels.
Find pictures or symbols of the details of that new life, and focus on them every day! 8.
This one might surprise you, but give thanks for the pains and struggles you have had.
And, in the very next instant ask each pain or dark part that lives inside you, what gift it gave you.
Really be sincere with this.
You will get answers! 9.
Usually, the answers are that these old hurts and behaviors and beliefs at one time were built in to protect you.
To protect you enough so you could function in your world at that time.
Now, you are choosing to live a different life - to feel freedom.
So now, you can let these dark aspects and old beliefs go.
Be willing to let them go.
Be willing to accept that all those parts will be replaced with empowering ones.
10.
This is key.
Do this with all your heart and mind and spirit and soul - be willing to allow and accept beautiful, meaningful and fulfilling experiences to come to you.
11.
When you feel afraid - and you will from time to time - understand that that is OK! Use your belief that you can move right on through that fear, and come out the other side shining! This is truth.
And you will learn and grow because of it.
12.
Underpinning all of the above points is the reality that thoughts are things.
Only you can control your thoughts, the language you use in your own mind, and the energies that your thinking sends out into the Universe.
You aren't in the back seat of a two-door anymore.
You're the one behind the wheel of your life.
There is real, verifiable science behind the fact that thoughts emit energy.
You cannot help yourself, until you really monitor your own thinking and choose what you focus on.
Choose wisely.
Think about what you DO want and why.
When you think about what you don't want, you shoot yourself in the foot because you will attract what you are thinking about! My life today is filled with blessings.
I finally learned to follow the desires and dreams of my own being.
I live a life that is in line with my values.
And you know what, I am attracting others whose values are in line with my own.
How sweet is that! The dozen "tips" above are a glimpse into the work I did with myself.
It took practice and more practice - and still does! But, the results were almost instantaneous.
I only know that in hindsight, however.
I only found out after the fact that things outside of my awareness began to happen right when I put new thinking patterns in place.
So, I want to say to you, "Don't give up.
Don't think that nothing is changing.
" The very first moment you really put energy into accepting your own dark stuff, and looking forward to understanding it and letting it all go, things happen.
And when you begin to watch what you think and how you think it and make changes to your thoughts, things happen.
Be patient for a time.
Although wonderful energies are instantly set in motion, it may take you a while to recognize how they are working to help you.
Trust in this process.
Have Faith that you are meant to be the finest and best expression of your truest self - your highest self, and the entire Universe moves to help you do just that.
You will receive according to what you ask for and how you ask for it.
Be grateful for what you have already learned in life.
Be grateful that you have the ability to dream.
Be grateful for the magical things you can create for yourself simply by thinking and believing.
Begin each day with expectation of something wonderful happening for you! (Seen or unseen.
) The more you practice expectation - the more opportunities you will recognize.
You will receive new ideas - inspiration.
Action steps that you can take will be revealed.
Just keep your mind open and look around.
Make it your intention today to believe in yourself.
Contained inside you is everything you will ever need to live in happiness and abundance.
For it is inside you where Spirit lives, connecting you to all the vastness of the Universe, which responds to every energy transmission you send out.
I believe in you! Copyright © 2006.
Sylvia MacKenzie.
All Rights Reserved.
The challenges that life sends our way can really knock the wind out of our sails - no matter how motivated we try to be.
The thing with motivation is it doesn't last.
It has a certain shelf life - an expiry date.
So, what are we to do? Especially if we are alone, in a life of isolation for some reason.
My own discovery was that the more I felt I just wasn't doing "it" right, the more withdrawn I became.
The culprits were my own guilt and shame.
Somehow, there was something just plain wrong with me.
I was "different".
Sure, other people could focus on a great life - and it would come to them! But not for me.
Perhaps it wasn't meant to be.
I thought I was working very hard to bring wonderful things into my life, and I could not understand why it wasn't working! I spent lots of money on books, on tapes, on attending seminars, on hypnosis - you name it - I tried it.
But I still had the pain.
I still had the struggles.
I still had the self-blame haunting me.
Except for pain, I was numb.
It is SO different now! I'll explain how and why in a minute.
You may be alone, like I still am, or you might just be feeling alone even though you have people around you most of the time.
Pain, fear, guilt, shame and a low self-image can and do isolate people.
It is like being stuck in the back seat of a two-door car.
You are just going along for the ride.
You are in a body that's going through the motions.
You're trapped on the inside and just looking out at a world that seems to be passing you by.
If these words resonate with you, please read on.
You, my magnificent friend - remind me of me.
By now you should be very curious about what changed, so that I can truly say I am happy with my life.
I will try to supercharge just a few words that I hope will have impact for you.
Consider these as tips to hold in your consciousness, no matter what appears to be going on in your present life.
1.
YOU are not your pain, or poverty, or loneliness, or guilt or anger, or whatever it is that seems to overpower you right now.
2.
Your existence is a gift through which you are obligated to become the best you can be.
You are no accident! 3.
Your purpose is to find the ones you are to serve.
First on that list is YOU! You will find the "how" to serve others inside the recesses of your own Soul.
Your dreams and desires are your biggest and truest clues to the Path meant for you.
4.
Even if you have never thought you were worth much - you definitely are! There is no other single person on this planet who has your experience of life, who loves the little things that you do, or who can express your unique personal touch.
5.
If all this is true - and such things have been taught by the greatest philosophers and spiritual leaders throughout the ages - then just imagine what awaits your own awakening to the glory that is you, right now!6.
Here is one thing you MUST do - and you MUST start now! Allow yourself to run wild with your imagining of a life that holds deep meaning for you.
7.
You must also write down all the wonderful details using the most intense emotions you can about how that life feels.
Find pictures or symbols of the details of that new life, and focus on them every day! 8.
This one might surprise you, but give thanks for the pains and struggles you have had.
And, in the very next instant ask each pain or dark part that lives inside you, what gift it gave you.
Really be sincere with this.
You will get answers! 9.
Usually, the answers are that these old hurts and behaviors and beliefs at one time were built in to protect you.
To protect you enough so you could function in your world at that time.
Now, you are choosing to live a different life - to feel freedom.
So now, you can let these dark aspects and old beliefs go.
Be willing to let them go.
Be willing to accept that all those parts will be replaced with empowering ones.
10.
This is key.
Do this with all your heart and mind and spirit and soul - be willing to allow and accept beautiful, meaningful and fulfilling experiences to come to you.
11.
When you feel afraid - and you will from time to time - understand that that is OK! Use your belief that you can move right on through that fear, and come out the other side shining! This is truth.
And you will learn and grow because of it.
12.
Underpinning all of the above points is the reality that thoughts are things.
Only you can control your thoughts, the language you use in your own mind, and the energies that your thinking sends out into the Universe.
You aren't in the back seat of a two-door anymore.
You're the one behind the wheel of your life.
There is real, verifiable science behind the fact that thoughts emit energy.
You cannot help yourself, until you really monitor your own thinking and choose what you focus on.
Choose wisely.
Think about what you DO want and why.
When you think about what you don't want, you shoot yourself in the foot because you will attract what you are thinking about! My life today is filled with blessings.
I finally learned to follow the desires and dreams of my own being.
I live a life that is in line with my values.
And you know what, I am attracting others whose values are in line with my own.
How sweet is that! The dozen "tips" above are a glimpse into the work I did with myself.
It took practice and more practice - and still does! But, the results were almost instantaneous.
I only know that in hindsight, however.
I only found out after the fact that things outside of my awareness began to happen right when I put new thinking patterns in place.
So, I want to say to you, "Don't give up.
Don't think that nothing is changing.
" The very first moment you really put energy into accepting your own dark stuff, and looking forward to understanding it and letting it all go, things happen.
And when you begin to watch what you think and how you think it and make changes to your thoughts, things happen.
Be patient for a time.
Although wonderful energies are instantly set in motion, it may take you a while to recognize how they are working to help you.
Trust in this process.
Have Faith that you are meant to be the finest and best expression of your truest self - your highest self, and the entire Universe moves to help you do just that.
You will receive according to what you ask for and how you ask for it.
Be grateful for what you have already learned in life.
Be grateful that you have the ability to dream.
Be grateful for the magical things you can create for yourself simply by thinking and believing.
Begin each day with expectation of something wonderful happening for you! (Seen or unseen.
) The more you practice expectation - the more opportunities you will recognize.
You will receive new ideas - inspiration.
Action steps that you can take will be revealed.
Just keep your mind open and look around.
Make it your intention today to believe in yourself.
Contained inside you is everything you will ever need to live in happiness and abundance.
For it is inside you where Spirit lives, connecting you to all the vastness of the Universe, which responds to every energy transmission you send out.
I believe in you! Copyright © 2006.
Sylvia MacKenzie.
All Rights Reserved.
