How to Deal With Lovesickness
- 1). Realize that your feelings of lovesickness indicate an overdependence on your new love interest. Acknowledge that this intense feeling is rooted in the fear of losing something that has brought great pleasure and meaning to your life. Think back over your previous romantic relationships. Ask yourself if lovesickness is a pattern in your life that has tended to be persistent and negative or if it historically has stayed within the healthy allowances for new relationships, passing quickly after minor discomfort.
- 2). Keep a written log of the moments during your day when you feel lovesickness intensely. Describe the circumstance in detail so that you can recognize your triggers. Common triggers for unhealthy lovesickness include boredom, loneliness, conflict, transitions and challenges. Come to terms with the fact that these triggers indicate an improper use of your new-found love in an attempt to fill other voids in your life.
- 3). Practice coping skills to deal with feelings of lovesickness when they arise. Choose healthy ways to release your toxic energy. Go for a run. Create a piece of art. Focus more intently on your latest work project.
- 4). Resist the urge to smother your new love interest with phone calls, emails and other advances. Tell him that you are struggling a bit with unhealthy lovesickness, and set boundaries around your relationship to keep you from being needy. Put a limit on how many contacts you have per day and the number of in-person meetings you have per month.
- 5). See a therapist or join a local support group if intense feelings of lovesickness persist. Deal with your codependency or emotional dependency in these safe settings so that your romantic relationship does not suffer.
