Raising Kids Using These 3 Important Steps
Raising kids is a very important and meaningful task that parents engage in everyday.
Therefore, you really don't want to go at it just sporadically.
You also don't necessarily want to base your parenting off of what your parents did or didn't do.
Raising kids is a great thing to research! I have 3 steps that can really make a huge difference in how effective you can be as a parent.
1.
Have A Big Picture: When parenting you really want to have a destination in mind.
Nobody wants to be the parent in the Wendy's fast food line with their kids raising a ruckus.
There's an easy way to prevent that from happening and it's called having a big picture.
It's easy for parents to recognize where they don't want to be, like Wendy's with their children throwing a fit, but not many parents find it as easy to say where they would like to be.
One of the best ways to improve parenting is to be passionate about having the family of your dreams.
If you could create any kind of environment for raising kids what would it be? Write down any aspects of your goal that you are able to as a parent now and refine at a later date.
2.
Have A Plan: Every goal in life needs a plan.
Get every adult that will be parenting your child and share your goal with them and create a plan of action for raising kids effectively.
The specifics of the plan really do not matter as long as the plan is carried out well.
When you make a plan be sure that everyone is on board.
Here are some questions to guide your planning...
Answer these questions on a sheet of paper and you will have a plan when you're done: What are the rules I do want to enforce? What are the rules I want to let go of and not enforce? What consequences can I use when my child breaks a rule? Do I have complete control over all of these consequences? What consequences can I use when my child breaks a rule outside the home? These are a good start to help guide a parenting plan.
Remember a parenting plan does not have to be confusing and hard to incorporate in order to work wonders.
The simpler the plan the better.
3.
Work The Plan, Evaluate, and Refine: Every plan is going to include parts that don't work so well.
Just expect to have to refine it later.
But in order to see where the flaws are parents must be actively working their current plan.
It is important that you stick with your parenting plan and do not stray.
If you parent inconsistently, which has been proven to be ineffective, you will never know what works and what doesn't.
STICK TO YOUR PLAN! Evaluating the impact your plan has had on raising kids will show up in your everyday stress level.
Just having a plan will greatly reduce stress; however, a good plan can really have a big impact on decreasing stress in your life.
When evaluating, take note of how you feel.
This is important in knowing how well your parenting plan is working.
Also, it may help to keep tally marks somewhere of a specific behavior that you want to reduce.
This behavior can be anything from tantrums to biting.
Evaluate for a week or two and agree to refine the plan after the trial period.
After evaluating and learning what consequences did not work it is easy to come up with a better plan after that.
Therefore, you really don't want to go at it just sporadically.
You also don't necessarily want to base your parenting off of what your parents did or didn't do.
Raising kids is a great thing to research! I have 3 steps that can really make a huge difference in how effective you can be as a parent.
1.
Have A Big Picture: When parenting you really want to have a destination in mind.
Nobody wants to be the parent in the Wendy's fast food line with their kids raising a ruckus.
There's an easy way to prevent that from happening and it's called having a big picture.
It's easy for parents to recognize where they don't want to be, like Wendy's with their children throwing a fit, but not many parents find it as easy to say where they would like to be.
One of the best ways to improve parenting is to be passionate about having the family of your dreams.
If you could create any kind of environment for raising kids what would it be? Write down any aspects of your goal that you are able to as a parent now and refine at a later date.
2.
Have A Plan: Every goal in life needs a plan.
Get every adult that will be parenting your child and share your goal with them and create a plan of action for raising kids effectively.
The specifics of the plan really do not matter as long as the plan is carried out well.
When you make a plan be sure that everyone is on board.
Here are some questions to guide your planning...
Answer these questions on a sheet of paper and you will have a plan when you're done: What are the rules I do want to enforce? What are the rules I want to let go of and not enforce? What consequences can I use when my child breaks a rule? Do I have complete control over all of these consequences? What consequences can I use when my child breaks a rule outside the home? These are a good start to help guide a parenting plan.
Remember a parenting plan does not have to be confusing and hard to incorporate in order to work wonders.
The simpler the plan the better.
3.
Work The Plan, Evaluate, and Refine: Every plan is going to include parts that don't work so well.
Just expect to have to refine it later.
But in order to see where the flaws are parents must be actively working their current plan.
It is important that you stick with your parenting plan and do not stray.
If you parent inconsistently, which has been proven to be ineffective, you will never know what works and what doesn't.
STICK TO YOUR PLAN! Evaluating the impact your plan has had on raising kids will show up in your everyday stress level.
Just having a plan will greatly reduce stress; however, a good plan can really have a big impact on decreasing stress in your life.
When evaluating, take note of how you feel.
This is important in knowing how well your parenting plan is working.
Also, it may help to keep tally marks somewhere of a specific behavior that you want to reduce.
This behavior can be anything from tantrums to biting.
Evaluate for a week or two and agree to refine the plan after the trial period.
After evaluating and learning what consequences did not work it is easy to come up with a better plan after that.
