Dating.
What a scary word to someone who's been divorced for 15 or 20 years, or even for the recently divorced who has been married for over 20 years.
The kids are raised and have left home and now the house is too quiet.
Friends say, "You should date.
"Date?Now?After all these years of being alone? How does one even go about it?If you aren't the drinking type, going to a bar and ordering a soft drink isn't going to do it.
And if you are a bit overweight, you probably don't want to go to a dance bar and try to compete with all those slim young things.
*sigh..
..
*Is it true?Did we really look like that just a few short years ago?Where did that figure go?Oh yeah, it got lost somewhere after the 2nd or 3rd child.
Friends tell you that you've got a lot to offer someone, and you have to agree.
But how do you get to know that someone? There are a number of ways.
One of the ways is the newspaper classifieds.
You can read them and respond to one you find interesting, and/or you can create your own.
"Slightly used divorcee, looking for understanding single man who likes cooking, dancing, romancing and long walks in the moonlight.
"Or "Blue-eyed brunette seeking a life after sending kids on their way, seeking young-thinking gentleman who likes to cook, dance and is a romantic.
" You answer the ad, arrange to meet over coffee and who knows what can happen.
Maybe you will just have coffee and decide that that's all you want to do with that person.
Maybe you will develop a friendship and find something in common, such as going to hockey games, and you will go to some games together and have coffee after to discuss them.
Maybe you will find someone that you would like to see again.
There are always clubs.
Computer clubs, book clubs, card clubs, dance clubs--square dancing, line dancing, stamp clubs, etc.
Pick a hobby and there's probably a club.
How about a motorcycle club?Or a sports car club?Bound to be a few men around there and not much competition from the female side, but have you tried to pry a guy away from his pride and joy?Single men might consider joining a quilting or crocheting group.
The women will be impressed and he will learn something useful.
And then there's that old standby..
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church.
Another way is to check out the internet.
For those not familiar with the internet it can be a very scary thing to do, but once you get a little bit savvy you can check out some of the sites that link people.
One of the most popular sites that you see advertised is Lava Life.
If you want, you can include your picture with your profile.
You get to talk to someone online before you arrange any face-to-face meeting, and once again you can arrange to meet in a group setting or over coffee.
You take a chance, true, but then you take chances with anyone you meet.
Lately there's been a lot of talk about the Law of Attraction.
Basically you put your request out into the universe and expect to get what you are looking for.
This sounds to me like a great way to do it.
Make a list, cut out some pictures to make a mock up of your ideal partner and then think about meeting them soon.
Take some time to jot down your list of the 10 (or more) things you are looking for in a partner and then put it out there! Good luck!!
What a scary word to someone who's been divorced for 15 or 20 years, or even for the recently divorced who has been married for over 20 years.
The kids are raised and have left home and now the house is too quiet.
Friends say, "You should date.
"Date?Now?After all these years of being alone? How does one even go about it?If you aren't the drinking type, going to a bar and ordering a soft drink isn't going to do it.
And if you are a bit overweight, you probably don't want to go to a dance bar and try to compete with all those slim young things.
*sigh..
..
*Is it true?Did we really look like that just a few short years ago?Where did that figure go?Oh yeah, it got lost somewhere after the 2nd or 3rd child.
Friends tell you that you've got a lot to offer someone, and you have to agree.
But how do you get to know that someone? There are a number of ways.
One of the ways is the newspaper classifieds.
You can read them and respond to one you find interesting, and/or you can create your own.
"Slightly used divorcee, looking for understanding single man who likes cooking, dancing, romancing and long walks in the moonlight.
"Or "Blue-eyed brunette seeking a life after sending kids on their way, seeking young-thinking gentleman who likes to cook, dance and is a romantic.
" You answer the ad, arrange to meet over coffee and who knows what can happen.
Maybe you will just have coffee and decide that that's all you want to do with that person.
Maybe you will develop a friendship and find something in common, such as going to hockey games, and you will go to some games together and have coffee after to discuss them.
Maybe you will find someone that you would like to see again.
There are always clubs.
Computer clubs, book clubs, card clubs, dance clubs--square dancing, line dancing, stamp clubs, etc.
Pick a hobby and there's probably a club.
How about a motorcycle club?Or a sports car club?Bound to be a few men around there and not much competition from the female side, but have you tried to pry a guy away from his pride and joy?Single men might consider joining a quilting or crocheting group.
The women will be impressed and he will learn something useful.
And then there's that old standby..
..
church.
Another way is to check out the internet.
For those not familiar with the internet it can be a very scary thing to do, but once you get a little bit savvy you can check out some of the sites that link people.
One of the most popular sites that you see advertised is Lava Life.
If you want, you can include your picture with your profile.
You get to talk to someone online before you arrange any face-to-face meeting, and once again you can arrange to meet in a group setting or over coffee.
You take a chance, true, but then you take chances with anyone you meet.
Lately there's been a lot of talk about the Law of Attraction.
Basically you put your request out into the universe and expect to get what you are looking for.
This sounds to me like a great way to do it.
Make a list, cut out some pictures to make a mock up of your ideal partner and then think about meeting them soon.
Take some time to jot down your list of the 10 (or more) things you are looking for in a partner and then put it out there! Good luck!!
