Relationship Advice - It"s Helpful to Cool Down When You Are Feeling Angry With Your Partner
Anger is a part of any relationship - at some point or another.
Whether you express your anger or not, you will feel it inside and possibly outside.
Anger is something you can turn outward, but you can also turn it inward on your body causing a variety of physical symptoms and side effects.
Some of the symptoms of anger can come in the physical form such as...
So, you turn that inward on yourself and cause a whole host of physical responses in your body.
It's important for both your relationship and your physical and mental health you learn how to work through your anger without getting upset...
First, you need to think about and focus on the physical sensations you feel when you're angry.
When you focus on those physical sensations, it allows you to calm down more easily and help to settle the emotional intensity you might be feeling.
Focusing on those physical symptoms will divert your attention from what you were angry about in the first place.
Second, take some deep, cleansing breaths.
You need to get some oxygen into your brain to counteract the tension you feel.
You may also want to do some exercise if possible.
Just taking a quick walk outside or running on the treadmill for a few minutes may be enough to knock the adrenaline level down - burning off any excess adrenaline is important.
Finally, count forward to ten and then back down again - over and over.
Again, this will allow you to focus on something else using the reasonable and logical part of your mind.
You can simply leave the room and start counting...
In the end, anger can instigate a situation and cause a relationship to completely break apart.
Make sure you ask yourself some questions about whether or not this particular outburst is worth your time and energy - together with the negative risk it might be putting on your relationship.
You simply cannot fight every battle in this way, so you have to decide if it is worth it to prove your point and be right, or can you let some of the smaller stuff pass without involving you and your partner in a "fight" over it?
Whether you express your anger or not, you will feel it inside and possibly outside.
Anger is something you can turn outward, but you can also turn it inward on your body causing a variety of physical symptoms and side effects.
Some of the symptoms of anger can come in the physical form such as...
- a pounding heart beat,
- the need to walk around to work off anxiety,
- headaches,
- knots or butterflies in your stomach, and even
- the clenching of your jaw.
So, you turn that inward on yourself and cause a whole host of physical responses in your body.
It's important for both your relationship and your physical and mental health you learn how to work through your anger without getting upset...
First, you need to think about and focus on the physical sensations you feel when you're angry.
When you focus on those physical sensations, it allows you to calm down more easily and help to settle the emotional intensity you might be feeling.
Focusing on those physical symptoms will divert your attention from what you were angry about in the first place.
Second, take some deep, cleansing breaths.
You need to get some oxygen into your brain to counteract the tension you feel.
You may also want to do some exercise if possible.
Just taking a quick walk outside or running on the treadmill for a few minutes may be enough to knock the adrenaline level down - burning off any excess adrenaline is important.
Finally, count forward to ten and then back down again - over and over.
Again, this will allow you to focus on something else using the reasonable and logical part of your mind.
You can simply leave the room and start counting...
In the end, anger can instigate a situation and cause a relationship to completely break apart.
Make sure you ask yourself some questions about whether or not this particular outburst is worth your time and energy - together with the negative risk it might be putting on your relationship.
You simply cannot fight every battle in this way, so you have to decide if it is worth it to prove your point and be right, or can you let some of the smaller stuff pass without involving you and your partner in a "fight" over it?
