How to Fix a Bad Marriage
- 1). Sit down calmly with your spouse and discuss some ground rules to avoid fights and to keep the lines of communication open. End the discussion before it gets heated, and agree that both of you will return to the table when you are calmer.
- 2). When talking about your problems with your spouse take care not to word your statement in a way that will put your spouse on the defensive. Instead, start you sentences with " I feel, I hear, I am," not "you are this, or you do that."
- 3). Find the core of your marriage problem. When you fight about little unimportant things, it's usually something else entirely.
- 4). Agree to discuss a plan to solve the problem, with both of you helping each other.
- 5). Go to see a marriage counselor if you find that communication in a civil manner is not possible without a third and neutral party present.
