Stay-At-Home Mums: Meeting the Challenges
Long before I was conceived with my first child, I have decided in my heart that I would be a stay-at-home mum, taking care of my young ones.
I believe that the downfall of the morality in our society today is because we are not building a strong family unit.
I quit my job a year after my baby turned one.
Now I am a stay-at-home mum, taking care of my two-year-old toddler full time.
However, it is more demanding than I thought.
Perhaps the job description of a stay-at-home would probably be something like this, "Highly demanding, 24/7 on call, forget about personal space, play multiple roles and multi-task a thousand nitty-gritty assignments, mostly misunderstood and under-appreciated at large.
" Now I began to understand that not all women are suited for the role of staying at home full time and children are sometimes better off being looked after by more patient caregivers, than by a mother that is not happy about her choice of staying at home.
The fact that there is no clear delineation between their "work space" and their "rest space", as well as their "work time" and their "rest time" means many stay-at-home mum feel like they're on duty all the time! It becomes worse when husband and the society have the perception that being at home meant that they have a lot of free time, and that it didn't really involve a lot of work.
Sometimes, the people around stay-at-home mum may make them feel as though they were weak or less capable because they chose to stay at home, they quit their job because they could not handle the pressure or juggle the roles of motherhood and career woman.
Stay-at-home mum also need to face loneliness as they are now less connected to the society, and their children are taking most of their attention from everything else.
If one couldn't handle all these issues properly, perhaps it is better for her to work than to be miserable, angry, frustrated and resentful.
This resentment rubs off on the children and makes for a very unhappy home environment.
We may still shower lots of love to our children even as a working mum.
Just remember to treasure every moment you have with your child and spend time with them in a productive way.
I believe that the downfall of the morality in our society today is because we are not building a strong family unit.
I quit my job a year after my baby turned one.
Now I am a stay-at-home mum, taking care of my two-year-old toddler full time.
However, it is more demanding than I thought.
Perhaps the job description of a stay-at-home would probably be something like this, "Highly demanding, 24/7 on call, forget about personal space, play multiple roles and multi-task a thousand nitty-gritty assignments, mostly misunderstood and under-appreciated at large.
" Now I began to understand that not all women are suited for the role of staying at home full time and children are sometimes better off being looked after by more patient caregivers, than by a mother that is not happy about her choice of staying at home.
The fact that there is no clear delineation between their "work space" and their "rest space", as well as their "work time" and their "rest time" means many stay-at-home mum feel like they're on duty all the time! It becomes worse when husband and the society have the perception that being at home meant that they have a lot of free time, and that it didn't really involve a lot of work.
Sometimes, the people around stay-at-home mum may make them feel as though they were weak or less capable because they chose to stay at home, they quit their job because they could not handle the pressure or juggle the roles of motherhood and career woman.
Stay-at-home mum also need to face loneliness as they are now less connected to the society, and their children are taking most of their attention from everything else.
If one couldn't handle all these issues properly, perhaps it is better for her to work than to be miserable, angry, frustrated and resentful.
This resentment rubs off on the children and makes for a very unhappy home environment.
We may still shower lots of love to our children even as a working mum.
Just remember to treasure every moment you have with your child and spend time with them in a productive way.
