If you weren't ready for your relationship to be over you are probably asking the question "how can I win her back?".
You are probably playing the game tape over and over in your mind trying to figure out what you could have done differently.
You may be on your 50th draft of the ultimate apology letter or scripting the ultimate take me back phone call.
Your intentions may be good, but you could be setting yourself up for failure if you approach the situation wrong.
It can be difficult to find the real reasons why your girl dumped you.
Women are emotional creatures and sometimes they aren't even sure of what is causing them to feel the way they do about you.
If this is the case you are going to spend a great deal of time and energy trying to figure out what went wrong when there may not be a definitive answer.
It could be a lot of things.
It could be a few things.
Right now all she knows is she doesn't want to see you.
Here's where most guys make their strategic blunder.
They are afraid to let go because they think things will be over.
So they push.
They try to keep from letting her get to far away.
In the reality what you are doing is going to have the opposite effect.
Seeing you or talking to you is only going to make those negative feelings she has for you right now stronger.
The simple fact is that the harder you try to hold on the more likely she will be to not come back.
You both need some space.
She needs time to let go of those negative feelings and you need some time to get your head on straight.
It's impossible to see things clearly when you are immersed in a situation.
Have you heard the saying, "He couldn't see the forest for the trees".
Well my friend, that is you right now.
Take a step back.
With a little space comes clarity, for both of you.