Jealousy Is your husband jealous? And no, I'm not talking about the time you were talking to that cute guy at the gym.
Does he get jealous over other important people in your life such as your family, friends and coworkers? In some instances, does he try to discourage you from being with them? Does he always question where you are, what you are doing and who you are with? If this is the case, he is attempting to isolate you so he can have you exclusively to himself.
Extreme jealousy stems from the simple fact that he has lost trust in your faithfulness to him.
This lack of trust manifests itself as an extremely possessive attitude, rather than seeing you as an independent individual.
Control An abusive husband usually displays abusive behavior in order to maintain control over his wife.
He will be overly demanding of your time and wants to always be the center of your attention.
This control is usually displayed by taking over the finances, car and the activities you partake in.
By limiting your independence and strength, you must always rely on and come back to him.
Superiority Is he always right, has to win or be in charge? Does he talk down to you, put you down or call you names in order to make himself feel better? A verbally abusive husband will try to make himself feel and look superior in relation to his wife.
His goal is to make you feel week and look to him for power and strength.
In most cases, this superiority complex stems from feeling insecure and results in him trying to gain power over you in order to feel better.
Manipulation Do you always feel like you get blamed for things that are not even your fault? Well, an abusive husband is usually also a master manipulator.
By calling you crazy or stupid, he is mentally justifying his abusive actions by blaming you as the cause for them.
Mood Swings Extreme mood swings from angry and aggressive to apologetic and loving are signs of an abusive relationship.
This is just another form of manipulation.
The apology always follows the abusive behavior in order to convince you that he understands what he did and is sorry for his actions, even though he might not be.
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Promises Does your husband make promises that he will change and be a better man, but nothing ever changes? Abusive men are able to convince you that they are always trying to change.
But, this is all an attempt to keep you under his control.
Think about what happens every time he says he is trying and it will be different in the future.
Do you come running back to him? Punishment An emotionally abusive husband is abusive by relying on some form of punishment.
This can be anything from withholding sex to playing the silent game.
This punishment is only a way for him to get what he wants and keep you under his control.
Unwilling to Seek Help This is the most common sign of an abusive husband.
They are always unwilling to get help from a marriage counselor or therapist.
Most abusive husbands know that a third-party will realize their behavior is abusive.
Why would he want to make it public knowledge? That's why abuse always occurs behind closed doors in the home.
It is up to you to realize that what you are experiencing is an abusive relationship and take steps to remove yourself from that situation.
There are a multitude of resources available online to help you identify and resolve problems that may arise due to an abusive husband.
Make sure to first look out for your own psychological and physical well-being.
No person deserves to be abused and think they are at fault for every problem in their lives.