What Is Your Family"s Bull"s-Eye?
If you were to fast forward your family a year down the road, what would you hope to see? How about 3 years? And, what will create that picture? More than what the economy does, more than what grades your kids get, more than what job you or your spouse may hold, having clarity on what you really want for your family holds powerful influence on your outcome.
Joseph Murphy has said, "We go where our vision is.
" Truth.
But exactly how does one come up with that picture? In my coaching work I find that people often have much clearer vision for the future than what they realize.
I could ask someone "what is your vision for your family?" and I would get the response "Gosh, I don't know.
" Maybe some vague generalities...
happiness...
health...
income...
??" Blank stares fill the space.
But when we explore additional questions, there are often very vivid pictures buried down inside.
Beautiful pictures.
Full of life.
Captivating.
Oozing with energy and motivation.
It's the process of getting to those pictures that's where the gold is found.
Here are some simple action steps to get you started: - Create space.
The reality is that many people are foggy about what they desire for their family because they live with so little margin that there is no room to consider it.
Start small if you need to.
Mark an hour on your calendar right now to find a quiet, beautiful spot and open your mind to the dreams that you want for your home.
Maybe make a coffee date with your partner to reconnect with some of the hopes and dreams that you share.
What on your agenda is more important than that? - Consider some important questions.
What do we want people to say about our family? What are 6-8 times you know your family was in your "flow" of who you want to be? What was happening then? What made it meaningful? What do you want to pass on to your kids? - Take Action Some bite-size steps like these could be just enough to get you going on some action for your family that holds great reward.
There are certainly many questions and resources to use to go deeper, but choosing to start is very empowering.
After all, it's hard to hit the bull's-eye if you don't have a target.
Joseph Murphy has said, "We go where our vision is.
" Truth.
But exactly how does one come up with that picture? In my coaching work I find that people often have much clearer vision for the future than what they realize.
I could ask someone "what is your vision for your family?" and I would get the response "Gosh, I don't know.
" Maybe some vague generalities...
happiness...
health...
income...
??" Blank stares fill the space.
But when we explore additional questions, there are often very vivid pictures buried down inside.
Beautiful pictures.
Full of life.
Captivating.
Oozing with energy and motivation.
It's the process of getting to those pictures that's where the gold is found.
Here are some simple action steps to get you started: - Create space.
The reality is that many people are foggy about what they desire for their family because they live with so little margin that there is no room to consider it.
Start small if you need to.
Mark an hour on your calendar right now to find a quiet, beautiful spot and open your mind to the dreams that you want for your home.
Maybe make a coffee date with your partner to reconnect with some of the hopes and dreams that you share.
What on your agenda is more important than that? - Consider some important questions.
What do we want people to say about our family? What are 6-8 times you know your family was in your "flow" of who you want to be? What was happening then? What made it meaningful? What do you want to pass on to your kids? - Take Action Some bite-size steps like these could be just enough to get you going on some action for your family that holds great reward.
There are certainly many questions and resources to use to go deeper, but choosing to start is very empowering.
After all, it's hard to hit the bull's-eye if you don't have a target.
