How to Be Confident Without Anxiety in 5 Steps
Anxiety is an extremely common problem which is extremely important to first realise when you think about how it affects you in your day to day life.
Just knowing that you are not the only one that feels threatened by certain scenarios or that people really are not focused on you can ease the tension immediately and open your mind up to coping with anxiety and leading a life that you may not think is possible at present.
Anxiety is caused by both physiological and psychological reactions to certain perceived situations.
It is more than likely that at some point in your life you have been in a situation that has caused your body to release an excess of adrenalin.
This adrenalin is used by the body to communicate to the brain that it should be scared, excited or strong.
However, if the adrenalin is not used properly and the levels are too high in relation to the circumstance panic set in even if danger is not imminent.
Unfortunately this can happen in many situations and breeds irrational thoughts, feelings and emotions.
Adrenalin is so powerful and the mind learns so quickly that your body can react negatively and consistently associate situations such as shopping, being in lifts with others, speaking in a meetings or managing others to a feeling of danger, panic and anxiety.
You end up within a cycle of social fear that can have dramatic affects on your confidence levels and self fulfil the negative feelings that are experienced.
However, as the brain has learned this reaction it can easily be unlearned if you are willing and open minded to using different techniques and understanding what anxiety is.
1: Why? You feel anxiety from something that has happened to you in the past, sometimes this is hard to pin point but think about what it is that makes you anxious and when there has been a time that has made you feel more anxious than others that has kick started negative feelings or a time where you didn't ever feel anxious and go from there.
To be anxious is totally natural and normal but it is more often than not irrational.
It is important to realise this when trying to cope with it.
It is also important to realise that fear can be broken down and approached rationally, leading to a confidence that will override anxiety.
2: What is it you see that others do not? Anxiety is usually spurred from the fact your mind believes you are in danger; learned from excess adrenalin.
After thinking about why it is you feel how you do, think about what it is you feel? There is never any right or wrong answer as everyone is different so do not be wary of doing this.
Are you scared of what others think? Are you scared people might laugh at you? Or afraid you will make a mistake? Do you think that people will judge you negatively if you say something wrong or buy something that others will not like? All these questions have negative connotations and emotions surrounding them, which explains how anxiety, Lack of confidence is then perpetuated, creating a social illusion.
By literally repeating these questions and reminding yourself of them each day can have a dramatic effect: Who cares what people think of me? What will happen if I make a mistake or laugh at me I will not come to any harm? If people judge me will it effect me negatively? Are people even looking at me? All the answers to these are NOTHING or NO! 3: Look around you, what's going on? It is so easy to carry on with anxiety and believing that's just the way it is.
You are not the only one.
But put yourself in a shopping mall, busy restaurant, works meeting or lecture; look around you, where are people looking? What are they doing? What do you think they are REALLY thinking? Just by taking a step back you can literally see that there is focus on you, you are not in any danger and you have your own life to lead just like they are doing.
We all have own lives and its fair to say we are all pretty selfish when it comes to that but not in a bad way.
We are so busy that it is not likely everyone will be looking at you and therefore there is no reason to feel anxious or scared, hold your head up high and be confident with who you are.
It is more likely this will get noticed in a positive light than you get noticed at all in a negative one.
4: Who do you admire? Anxiety causes your confidence to hit rock bottom and leaves you feeling trapped and alone sometimes.
This may sound melodramatic but for many this is true.
But think about who it is around you such as friends, family, on TV, in Politics, Movies or Music etc Who is it that you think emanates confidence and why? Write down all the things you admire and what they have done because of it.
By doing this you give yourself an aim and realise that many qualities are easily transferable making you realise that barriers do not have to exist if you do not want them too, would the person you admire be where they are if they thought the same way? 5: Can I do it? Yes, is the only answer.
Anxiety does not have to rule your life or anyone else.
Just by realising and approaching your anxiety can help you cope much more and by keeping an open mind and trying out techniques you can control your anxiety and boost your confidence so much you will not be stopped doing anything that you want, just put your mind to it and keep your mind and body positive.
The worry of what people think of you, fear, panic, dread, frustration and sadness can be all sensations that lead to and are the result of anxiety.
By taking steps to combat the condition you can conquer emotions such as these and the affect they have upon you and your life, banishing negativity and leading a life that is controlled by the things you want.
Just knowing that you are not the only one that feels threatened by certain scenarios or that people really are not focused on you can ease the tension immediately and open your mind up to coping with anxiety and leading a life that you may not think is possible at present.
Anxiety is caused by both physiological and psychological reactions to certain perceived situations.
It is more than likely that at some point in your life you have been in a situation that has caused your body to release an excess of adrenalin.
This adrenalin is used by the body to communicate to the brain that it should be scared, excited or strong.
However, if the adrenalin is not used properly and the levels are too high in relation to the circumstance panic set in even if danger is not imminent.
Unfortunately this can happen in many situations and breeds irrational thoughts, feelings and emotions.
Adrenalin is so powerful and the mind learns so quickly that your body can react negatively and consistently associate situations such as shopping, being in lifts with others, speaking in a meetings or managing others to a feeling of danger, panic and anxiety.
You end up within a cycle of social fear that can have dramatic affects on your confidence levels and self fulfil the negative feelings that are experienced.
However, as the brain has learned this reaction it can easily be unlearned if you are willing and open minded to using different techniques and understanding what anxiety is.
1: Why? You feel anxiety from something that has happened to you in the past, sometimes this is hard to pin point but think about what it is that makes you anxious and when there has been a time that has made you feel more anxious than others that has kick started negative feelings or a time where you didn't ever feel anxious and go from there.
To be anxious is totally natural and normal but it is more often than not irrational.
It is important to realise this when trying to cope with it.
It is also important to realise that fear can be broken down and approached rationally, leading to a confidence that will override anxiety.
2: What is it you see that others do not? Anxiety is usually spurred from the fact your mind believes you are in danger; learned from excess adrenalin.
After thinking about why it is you feel how you do, think about what it is you feel? There is never any right or wrong answer as everyone is different so do not be wary of doing this.
Are you scared of what others think? Are you scared people might laugh at you? Or afraid you will make a mistake? Do you think that people will judge you negatively if you say something wrong or buy something that others will not like? All these questions have negative connotations and emotions surrounding them, which explains how anxiety, Lack of confidence is then perpetuated, creating a social illusion.
By literally repeating these questions and reminding yourself of them each day can have a dramatic effect: Who cares what people think of me? What will happen if I make a mistake or laugh at me I will not come to any harm? If people judge me will it effect me negatively? Are people even looking at me? All the answers to these are NOTHING or NO! 3: Look around you, what's going on? It is so easy to carry on with anxiety and believing that's just the way it is.
You are not the only one.
But put yourself in a shopping mall, busy restaurant, works meeting or lecture; look around you, where are people looking? What are they doing? What do you think they are REALLY thinking? Just by taking a step back you can literally see that there is focus on you, you are not in any danger and you have your own life to lead just like they are doing.
We all have own lives and its fair to say we are all pretty selfish when it comes to that but not in a bad way.
We are so busy that it is not likely everyone will be looking at you and therefore there is no reason to feel anxious or scared, hold your head up high and be confident with who you are.
It is more likely this will get noticed in a positive light than you get noticed at all in a negative one.
4: Who do you admire? Anxiety causes your confidence to hit rock bottom and leaves you feeling trapped and alone sometimes.
This may sound melodramatic but for many this is true.
But think about who it is around you such as friends, family, on TV, in Politics, Movies or Music etc Who is it that you think emanates confidence and why? Write down all the things you admire and what they have done because of it.
By doing this you give yourself an aim and realise that many qualities are easily transferable making you realise that barriers do not have to exist if you do not want them too, would the person you admire be where they are if they thought the same way? 5: Can I do it? Yes, is the only answer.
Anxiety does not have to rule your life or anyone else.
Just by realising and approaching your anxiety can help you cope much more and by keeping an open mind and trying out techniques you can control your anxiety and boost your confidence so much you will not be stopped doing anything that you want, just put your mind to it and keep your mind and body positive.
The worry of what people think of you, fear, panic, dread, frustration and sadness can be all sensations that lead to and are the result of anxiety.
By taking steps to combat the condition you can conquer emotions such as these and the affect they have upon you and your life, banishing negativity and leading a life that is controlled by the things you want.
