How to Surrender Change For the Sake of Sanity
No matter where people are geographically we all deal with change.
We learn, we get married, we have children, we lose family members, we lose homes and either we embrace it or fight against it.
When you learn to embrace change you can easily fend off temporary insanity.
Individuals who successfully handle change have learned to do so by blocking the negative thoughts that prevent them from moving forward through life.
Positive thinking alone can't do this.
People who understand the reality of just how tough things might get and yet still remain positive because they know that something good will come out of it if they are patient, they make a decision to never give up.
Consider this; any emotion you resist can rule your life like an unspoken law.
How much time or attention do you give to the individual who hurt your feelings? Here are more negative feelings to be aware of when moving through change, but they are only presented to make you aware, not to dwell on: * FEAR - Throughout earths history fear gives a natural emotional paralyzed feeling.
People can, and do, move beyond it.
* DOUBT - Doubt will keep you from moving forward because you have no true conviction that things will work out.
* IMPATIENCE - You can't trust anyone else, therefore, you will likely believe you are the only one who can do the job or give up on someone else who is trying to do the job * GUILT - Guilt produces feelings of low self worth.
Blame, most often induced by parents or spouse, but in casting blame it will further delay emotional maturity.
* SHAME - Concerned about how others will look at you if a change is made.
In order to move through change of any kind, you have to first accept it.
This is not to be interpreted as acting like a door mat.
If you focus on a belief that you can't, then that is precisely what holds you back from an opportunity to grow.
How people cope is very personal for everyone; some people pray, some journal or exercise, some create a resume' of all the good that came out of their life changing experiences.
Whatever method works for you, do it.
When you begin recognizing the negative emotions, you will begin to ask yourself, "What am I thinking that is creating this negative feeling?" You'll get better and better at it each time if you allow yourself to recognize it, ask forgiveness for it, but quickly re-focus your attention to the positive.
The more you can celebrate small victories, the easier change becomes.
We learn, we get married, we have children, we lose family members, we lose homes and either we embrace it or fight against it.
When you learn to embrace change you can easily fend off temporary insanity.
Individuals who successfully handle change have learned to do so by blocking the negative thoughts that prevent them from moving forward through life.
Positive thinking alone can't do this.
People who understand the reality of just how tough things might get and yet still remain positive because they know that something good will come out of it if they are patient, they make a decision to never give up.
Consider this; any emotion you resist can rule your life like an unspoken law.
How much time or attention do you give to the individual who hurt your feelings? Here are more negative feelings to be aware of when moving through change, but they are only presented to make you aware, not to dwell on: * FEAR - Throughout earths history fear gives a natural emotional paralyzed feeling.
People can, and do, move beyond it.
* DOUBT - Doubt will keep you from moving forward because you have no true conviction that things will work out.
* IMPATIENCE - You can't trust anyone else, therefore, you will likely believe you are the only one who can do the job or give up on someone else who is trying to do the job * GUILT - Guilt produces feelings of low self worth.
Blame, most often induced by parents or spouse, but in casting blame it will further delay emotional maturity.
* SHAME - Concerned about how others will look at you if a change is made.
In order to move through change of any kind, you have to first accept it.
This is not to be interpreted as acting like a door mat.
If you focus on a belief that you can't, then that is precisely what holds you back from an opportunity to grow.
How people cope is very personal for everyone; some people pray, some journal or exercise, some create a resume' of all the good that came out of their life changing experiences.
Whatever method works for you, do it.
When you begin recognizing the negative emotions, you will begin to ask yourself, "What am I thinking that is creating this negative feeling?" You'll get better and better at it each time if you allow yourself to recognize it, ask forgiveness for it, but quickly re-focus your attention to the positive.
The more you can celebrate small victories, the easier change becomes.
